Post # 1
Most of the invitations I really like have some variation of “together with their parents” or “together with their families” at the top, but how might we re-word that if my FI’s family is not going to be involved or invited? (FI is in the process of cutting his toxic and abusive mom out of his life, his father is already estranged for similar reasons, and the family has made it clear they will not be “siding” with him.)
My family would be there, so it’s not an elopement or anything. FI and I are paying for everything ourselves.
I know I could just remove it altogether, but I was wondering if anyone had any ideas or experiences with something more couple-focused, or non-family-specific focused? Whether because family was not involved, or just because you wanted to focus on the two of you?
(Posting to Etiquette because that’s where I see most of the invite wording posts.)
Post # 2
The honour of your presence ( or “The pleasure of your company” if not in a religious place)
is requested at the marriage of
Lauren Beth Smith
to William James Jones
Saturday, the fifteenth of May
Post # 3
I also just saw an invite with “Because you have shared in our lives with your love and friendship” at the top, which is also fitting and non-family-specific.
Post # 4
That is what we used:
Because you have shared in their lives
Through your friendship and love
You are invited to share in the joy at the wedding of
Bride’s Name, Groom’s name
The invitation design I really wanted forced us to use this wording. I needed our names to appear after exactly 3 lines of text. If you have more flexibility there are lots of options. Google “invitation wording for bride and groom hosting”.
Post # 5
You can also use titles with your names.
The traditional version, which I prefer, is intentionally understated. Strict etiquette would say that the “love and friendship” part is presumed and need not be overstated. Supposedly that implies your wedding has more love etc. than the next person’s, LOL.
Post # 6
Agree. I gotta say that wording is not my style at all. Unfortunately I got a late start working on invitations though and it was all we could come up with in the time crunch. I could have chosen a different design that wouldn’t force me into that line structure but I was mad for this certain design and decided to comprimise on the wording. The design was fit for parents hosting, so in order to use it I had to do it that way.
Post # 7
“Together with their loved ones” “In a celebration of their love” “In a declaration of their love” “In love and happiness” “Are starting their forever”
Post # 8
I put on my invites “with exchanging of rings and a couple of kisses, please join us as we become mr. & mrs.” bride to groom and address etc.
Hope this helps!!
Post # 9
I wanted to suggest something like “X and Y, together with their loved ones” but I see OTtobe has already wrote that. If you are thinking about this phrase you can count two votes fot it 😉
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Yeah I also though “Together with their loved ones, ….”
Post # 11
I just reworded it to “Because you have shared in our lives you’re invited to the marriage of…”
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
I think we’re just going to do something along the lines of “You are invited to witness the marriage of: ” We have an absentee mother and deceased father on my FI’s side and my parents are super chill and don’t care at all about etiquette, just that we’re happy, so there’s not an issue.
Post # 13
Depending on how casual it is, I have seen templates for wedding invitations that simple say John Smith and Jane dow invite you to attend their wedding celebration…
I don’t think there is anything wrong with keeping it sweet and simple.