(Closed) How to react when people tell you your ring is too big?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have a rather large and prominent center stone and the first thing people say to me is, “Oh wow, your ring is huge/spectacular/gorgeous!”. No matter the tone, whether jealous or sweet or amazed, I just say thank you, and mean it. If they’re being sweet or just amazed, it’s the proper response. And if they’re jealous or snarky, it’s a subtle nudge to put them back in their place. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

People are always going to say something. Its always going to be HUGE or really small or whatever. People always talk no matter what you do the only thing that matters is that you love it!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

<—agree with bunny 100%

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My center stone is just over a carat, which I think is the perfect size, but I have gotten a LOT of “WOAH IT’S HUGE!” type comments.  I’ve also gotten a couple “oh it’s so proportionate to your tiny hand” (which I’m pretty sure is code for “your rock is small”)

I just smile and say “thank you, it’s my perfect ring” and leave it at that.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i agree; just say “thank you” 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

mine is not even large… but i guess a 1 carat stone in the midwest amazes some people… i just say thank you usually…. what can you say? ive thought about being like… ‘well not really…’ lol

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh yeah., i had a few “omg, that’d look so X on my finger”, and I just say “it works for me! I love bold rings!” I have a coworker who used to make inappropriate comments about my ring a lot…not sure why, it was a favorite topic for him. Mine’s 3.75 carats, spread out over 3 bands, and I still get them on occassion. But i have a friend with a 1.3 carat center and i gushed over how huge it was–it was huge! and it looked AWESOME!

IMO, it’s not really a bad problem to have =]

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would take it as a compliment 🙂  Huge is good in my books lol!  But as for the parts about people saying they’d never want that, I’d chalk that up to them needing to defend their own probably smaller ring, or they’re just socially stupid because you really shouldn’t say that to someone, I’d just say, “well I love it and its exactly what I wanted”… would you ever tell someone, “ohh I’d want a ring much bigger than that?”… exactly.  Dont let other people’s opinions ruin it for you, the ring sounds absolutely gorgeous and not TOO big that its gaudy, in my opinion!!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

“Well thank goodness, then, that you’re not the one who has to wear it! I love my ring, and I love the thought [FI] put into picking it out. I think it’s perfect!”

I do get comments from time to time; my ring is .75 (actually, I think it’s more like .83 or something) carat solitare, and I have small hands, so it looks pretty big. I just tell people I love it and I love that Fiance picked it all by himself. People are going to be rude, no matter what you say, though.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The only appropriate comment about someone’s engagement ring is “Oh how beautiful!” That is the only thing I ever say personally. But people do comment in a snarky way about the size of my ring and I usually just thank them for the ‘compliment’.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would also take it as a compliment. I’ve gotten some comments from co-workers and family, like, “Oh we better take out our sunglasses!” or “Wow, i’ve never seen a real diamond that big.” I just smile and say “Thanks! He did good, didn’t he?”.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

ya ppl will always say something, i remember when i got engaged and we went out in a group with some girls, and this girl kept complaining about how small her ring was and it was 2X bigger then mine. she kept going on and on and on. i think some of the other girls noticed because they chimed in with that my ring was the perfect size for my hands, etc but ya i just shrug it off because i don’t really care what other people say about it, i love it and thats all that matters to me! 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m prone to the snarky, so any “Wow, that’s massive/huge/ridiculous!” would simply be responded to with, “Your mouth is massive/huge/ridiculous!”

 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

People are inappropriate no matter what kind of ring you have. I have an ultra modern raw diamond ring (designed by an artist, not something you’d buy at a normal jewelry store). It is exactly what I wanted, and I love love love it. People comment sometimes on the fact that it isn’t a cut diamond or that it is “too modern”. The people who “get” it though – LOVE it like I do. Just don’t listen to people. It isn’t their ring, and they have their own reasons and insecurities for liking or not liking things.

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