(Closed) How to react when people tell you your ring is too big?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have that problem too – both big and small.

I live in a college town, and my 1/3 carat is HUGE to them. I just say “Thanks he got a great deal on it”

But my hometown is a big city. My ring is tiiiiny back there. I usually get a lot of “well, that’s interesting” and “are you going to upgrade it later?” comments…I say something along the lines of “Thanks, but I actually didn’t want something I had to worry about – I picked this size diamond myself”

All of the above are true – I love my 1/3 carat. I am upgrading (to my grandmother’s 2/3 carat center stone, but a 2.5 carat ring) when we get married, but it’s going to take a lot of adjusting to wear that ring. I still feel like it’s too big now.

Post # 18
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I get the same reactions. I felt the same way you do. I absolutely love it, but do feel self conscience about it and what people say. I just tell people that he picked it out all by himself, which he did. We never even went ring shopping. And then i say i think i have a keeper. Congrats by the way!

Post # 19
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59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I hate when they ask what my fiance does for a living after seeing my ring, some women are so tacky!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

People just crack me up- NOT !!! lol

I get this all the time… and people seem to think because it’s my 2nd wedding, my ring shouldn’t be grand….My center stone is round 2.5 carats and my setting is an additional 1 carat.

I just say I am very fortunate to have a wonderful Fiance with great taste…

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wear it well and wear it proudly! When I got engaged, my supervisor actually asked me if the diamond was real. It wasn’t malicious in any way, but still odd from a 70-something year old man. I agree with all the other posters to just reply with a simple thank you.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with everyone on here and am only commenting to tell a similar story.

I have a 1.7 round solitaire on a micro pave band… and i have skinny, tiny fingers which makes this bad boy look HUGE.  Most people comment that it is beatuful, or sometimes huge… I just say thank you. 

Now my story… I was out to dinner with Fiance, his highschool friends and the friend’s 2 (girl) friends whom neither of us had ever met.  We went to a local restaurant and afer about 10 mins of just staring at my ring, the one girl said it was ‘amazing.’  I said thank you and then she goes… how big is it??? I told her (which felt kinda odd) then SHE ASKED HOW MUCH IT COST!!! I must have given her a funny look bc she then asked if I didnt know how much it cost… I said I wasnt sure (complete lie) and thought that would be it…. But no, she then proceeded to ask Fiance how much it cost!!!! He gave me a look and then just told her (I think he was in shock that she asked him!)

People just dont know when to shut it sometimes!!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think people are funny that way. I wouldn’t take the comment that it’s Huge or massive as an insult. Many girls want a “rock” so maybe it’s meant as a compliment. I have had people ask if it’s real or how big or pick up my hand and hold it up to inspect it. Kind of funny I guess. The day after I got it, we were on a cruise ship and at dinner with a table full of other passengers (whom we didn’t know) and the women at the table gushed about the ring. they even got up off their chairs to come stare @ my hand. I was flattered. When they asked for details on the ring, size, designer, cost, I just said I don’t know this was a gift from my fiance. Enjoy the bling and be proud! And for those with more petite rings or plain bands, be proud of the symbol placed on that ever important finger regardless how big of small.

Post # 25
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

People will always ask if it’s real. Just say, “you bet your ass it’s real!” and just let them oggle, KNOWING it’s real, lol. If someone asks how much it costs, i’m the type to say, “more than you need to know, honey” lol.

Post # 26
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Unfortunately, people have forgotten their manners. I’ve had comments from both sides of the spectrum, but they do not bother me.  I think we are  fortunate to have someone that can give us beautiful (albeit extravagant) gifts.

 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Just say “thanks” and let them check it out.  You love it and that’s all that matters.

Congrats on your engagement and welcome btw!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

I think the best thing to say is just a simple “thank you.” If you really feel you need to justify the size, you could simply say “yes, he completely overwhelmed me with it and I think it’s spectacular.” I guarantee that no one will dare to say anything negative after you say that.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Like the other posters have already stated; just a simple thank you is a very nice reply 🙂

Post # 30
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Helper bee

I usually stick to the thank you or he did good response, but sometimes when I am feeling a little pissy or snarky I say, ‘well I did earn it.” and then I wink or give a smug smile. I can be immature sometimes. 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

we should start a board for people who can’t deal with their huge rings.

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