(Closed) How to reconcile his family's expectations (high) with our budget (low)

posted 4 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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45667 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Laurenplusalex:  Tell them staright up ” Thanks for the suggestions. It’s not in our budget. We’ll let you know when we find something that is.”

Post # 4
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He needs to tell them that what they’re sending is not in the budget — and to butt out. “Thanks for sending those, but we’ve got a lot of our own listings to look at. We’ll let you know if something comes up, but please don’t send anymore.”

Post # 5
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919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Just don’t look at what they send you. And don’t tell them about places you look at until you open escrow. By that point, it will be too late for their opinions.

Post # 6
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1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Good for you for being realistic and sticking to your goals.  Part of becoming an adult is listening respectfully to our parents then saying “Sorry, not going to do that”.  Friends and family will often have well-meaning advice for us, but in the end it’s our lives and we need to do what makes us happy.  

Post # 7
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1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Laurenplusalex:  Why are they being so pushy, do they plan on living with you guys?? I think maybe what you can do is lay down the numbers – your monthly home costs if you stay within budget, what’s left over for loans and savings. Show them that if you buy a more expensive home, you won’t be able to have a comfortable cushion of money. And say that you need to build savings for their future grandchildren, hah!

Post # 9
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3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Laurenplusalex:  they don’t have to live in your houses so what they like doesn’t matter. like PP said, tell them “thank you but we’re going in another direction with our search. we have a limited budget and we would like to work within that.”

Post # 8
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6168 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You just need to tell them, “We appriciate your enthusiasm in our house hunt, but we have a max budget of xyz and everything you’re showing us is way out of our budget. They are beautiful homes, but we are no interested in seeing anything that expensive. We don’t want to fall in love with a house we can’t afford. Thanks for understanding.”

Post # 10
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1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I agree with the above posters, just be straight with them and say that it is out of your budget.

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