How to relax about TTC?

posted 1 year ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I am in the exact same boat as you. I am also a healthy 26 year old and heading into my 3rd cycle of trying. I also thought it would happen right away. This month, I’ve started temping and will be using OPKs as well. If you are a type A planner like me, then I’m sure you want to do everything possible to put the chances on your side. I drove myself crazy the past 2 cycles with early testing and symptom spotting. This cycle, I’ve decided to relax a bit and put my energy on other things like planning a trip or planning summer activities. I think the more you think about it and stress about it, the least likely it is to happen and the more disappointed you’ll be if it doesn’t happen this month. Good luck!  

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Post # 4
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Helper bee

I have been taking the Costco (Kirkland brand) prenatals since March and my husband is taking regular multivitamins. I feel like I’ve over researched in the past 2 months, so now I’m just going to give it our best shot and hopefully soon enough we will get our BFP. I’m trying not to put my life on hold though because who knows how long it can take. 

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Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I’ve always heard it’s hard to get pregnant after being on BC for so long.  I think it’s just going to take time for your body to switch from “don’t get pregnant!!” to “do get pregnant!!”.  Maybe tell yourself that you aren’t trying to get pregnant for the next few months so you can relax about the time it will take.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Only 20-30% of healthy, fertile couples will conceive each month. Just because it’s taken a few months doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. If tracking is helping you, keep doing it. If its stressing you out, consider stepping back from it for a few months. Pregnancy doesn’t always happen when you want it to. It’s a good intro to parenting in that way — it’s the first step of being out of control.

Also — it’s 100% normal to have an irregular cycle after coming off BC. Your body is learning to self-regulate again.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

It can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to conceive. While it’s frustrating, your concerns are EXTREMELY premature. 

Not only can it take several months for your body to regulate after stopping BC, but as PP said, even a healthy couple only has a 20%-30% of conceiving every month even when they are doing everything perfectly. 

Your doctor is likely not going to do anything re: medications until you reach the 1-year mark of not getting pregnant, especially because you are so young. 

Good luck.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I don’t mean to be rude, but you just need to be realistic here. It is statistically uncommon to get pregnant your first or second month trying, especially if you’re just now coming off long term birth control. Yes, you hear stories all the time of people who stop birth control and get a BFP right away, but research will tell you that is not even close to the norm. Unless there’s more going on, you don’t need to do anything but time intercourse, take prenatal/be generally healthy and be patient. I know it sucks, but stressing and giving yourself things to worry about when you’re only starting your third month trying is silly. There is likely nothing wrong at all with you and you’ll be pregnant in the next few months. 

FWIW- I started trying at 25, got pregnant after 4 cycles, miscarried, tried for almost a year before getting pregnant with my daughter. So I get how much it sucks. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I’d stop with all the tracking. If you’re happily having sex that often, your bases are more than covered. Try giving it 6 months to let your body regulate and mentally consider it NTNP. The time will pass anyway, you might as well enjoy yourself. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Drink lots of wine!!!!

OK thats a half serious suggestion. I dont know. Im type A also and need to obsessively track everything. Had my Mirena removed a few weeks ago and set to ovulate this week. Realistically I know its very likely I wont get pregnant this month… but I will still be super disappointed if it doesnt happen.

Maybe stop tracking for a while? I could test 3x a day but I restrict myself to once. We have sex daily so i know realistically nothing about the test is going to change anything. At some point you just have to accept its out of your hands and let it happen when it happens.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

You can ask but I kind of doubt that after 2 months they’ll give you anything, especially if your second cycle was only 5 days longer than you anticipated. I would personally just give it time, because pumping more hormones into yourself isn’t really going helo things. Give your body a chance to regulate on its own and start worrying once you get in the 6-12 month range (or if you’re not getting periods, not ovulating, etc).  

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Post # 13
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Busy bee

No. At this point there is no need to go on anything to regulate your cycles. You are being way too overzealous. If there is a problem, your doctor will tell you. 

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Post # 14
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Bumble bee
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lovingbee34 :  have some wine. Some alcohol isn’t going to hurt anyone. if it helps you chill, go for it. Enjoy!

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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lovingbee34 :  more hormones and drugs will not be helpful here. Your body needs to reset after being on bcp. Sorry it sucks being impatient, but you really just need to give it time right now. 

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