How to relax about TTC?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 31
227 posts
Helper bee

Honestly, fertility is like a toss of the dice. You really never know if you’re going to be lucky or not. Being on this site has made me realise that. 

I’ve never had regular cycles, and I experienced mid-cycle spotting for a few years, which indicated a hormone imbalance, before taking the pill. I really thought that when the time came, I would have issues falling pregnant. 

I only took the pill for 9 months, starting a few months before I got married. I hated how it made me feel and I’ve never been a fan of hormonal contraception. 

I stopped taking the pill in June 2018, and my husband and I weren’t really being careful, because I honestly didn’t think I would fall pregnant. My cycles were crazy irregular after coming off the pill, and out of curiosity I decided to track my one cycle in October 2018 (around 5/6 cycles after coming off the pill) and I didn’t ovulate that cycle. 

I ended up falling pregnant the next cycle, after BD in CD5 and ovulating really early 🙈. 

My advice would be to take each cycle as it comes and try not to overthink it in the beginning (which is easier said than done). As a pp mentioned, stress can hinder fertility. 

All the best 🌸

Post # 32
642 posts
Busy bee

Everyone here has given you great advice. I’ll just add, as the mother of an awesome 18 month old, and currently pregnant (w twins), pregnancy sucks and parenthood is HARD. I know you want to be a mom, but when you find yourself stressing about it, have a glass of wine and read a book uninterrupted or go to dinner with your husband at a nice restaurant without someone throwing food at you. Or sleep in! Or take a nap on the beach. You won’t get that chance again for awhile 🙂 

Post # 35
2989 posts
Sugar bee

I’m in my first cycle of trying so I totally get how overwhelming it can be!

i wanted to add like some PP that your cycles might not be regulated all the way. I stopped taking the pill in December to prepare for trying this month. My periods just started regulating a few months ago. 

I understand the frustration as well. I know this is my first cycle trying but I know I will be disappointed if I get a negative test. It’s human nature. 

Like ofher PP noted, I would try another few months and see where things take you. It’s possible that for you, it’s be better to not track and just have sex every other day.

Post # 36
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Echoing many others, don’t be worried at all if it takes a few months for your cycles to regulate. But I TOTALLY relate to not knowing how to relax about this! For work reasons we are waiting until Sept to start TTC but I had to go through some difficult med tapers to get ready to have a safe pregnancy and now that I’m off everything, I can think of literally NOTHING but getting pregnant. I’m going to be a WRECK during every two week wait. Trying to keep practicing serenity…  

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