Post # 1
For family reasons (narcissist emotionally usiveabay mom/passive dad) and future Mother-In-Law who is divorced and not interested in wedding planning, I’m probably going to wedding alterations alone. And largely wedding planning alone with Fiance. We’re fully funding the wedding ourselves to avoid my controlling mom, and none of my extended family has congratulated either of us (even on our posts on social media/FB–just 1 cousin, out of 20 I have on FB). Everyone seems to ignore the fact we’re getting married in 2.5 months. I’ve been working overtime like crazy, and super busy staying fit/healthy, yoga, etc., but it’s so lonely sometimes. Maid/Matron of Honor got a new job working weekends, and BMs live out of state (one lives long distance away from her own husband bc they’re at different medical programs). How do you deal with feeling lonely sometimes?
Post # 2
I facetime with my Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaids.
Post # 3
Same as PP, I just call or videochat with my family when I’m lonely. None of my family live in the state that we grew up in other than myself anymore, they’ve all moved away.
I also spend a lot of time on these board because we’re all so excited about weddings!
Post # 4
I would try to not be upset that your social media posts about your wedding aren’t getting “likes” from family.
Social media, especially Facebook, shows and hides things unexpectedly. Even if you are “following” a person, that is not a guarantee their important updates will even show UP in the newsfeed. Assuming your updates do show up, remember people have lives. They might check their feed one a day or once a week, or once a month.
Don’t try to guess how often people are using FB based on what YOU see, as in trying to guage how often they use FB because the news feed shows them liking other posts. That’s the path to Crazytown.
My FB feed only shows me posts from one of my siblings, even though I have several, and I follow them all! It shows me posts from my dad, and nothing from my mum. They all post with similiar frequency but for whatever reason, FB doesn’t show me their updates. So I don’t see what they are doing on FB in my news feed at all, I have to look up each profile if I am inclined to do that.
All you can do is shrug.
If it bothers you that nobody important is liking your posts, perhaps make an effort to connect with those people outside social media so you can share your good news.
Post # 5
I can half relate as half of my family hasn’t expressed interest (my dad’s side, including my dad). However, to answer your question, I think you’ll find this forum can be an awesome place of support. 🙂 Everyone here is very excited to help plan, and I’ve gotten great tips already! It’s also fun to gush about weddings with people you know won’t get sick of it. I have girlfriends to talk to about wedding planning, but I find myself keeping my wedding talk in check for fear of boring them. So on moments like that, I come here!
Also, if you haven’t already, I highly recommend getting a wedding planner book and/or joining a wedding planning site like The Knot. They have really great step by step tips on what to do and what you should be thinking at with your timeline and budget. It’s a good way to brainstorm when you don’t have many people to bounce ideas around with.
Post # 6
This forum has plenty of willing people to talk to about wedding planning, and are more than happy to offer advice and ideas!
Facetiming/messaging is what I do, since my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor are both out of town.