(Closed) How to remove a bridesmaid?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

You’ve already asked her to be your bridesmaid and her bf is in your wedding party also? I don’t see how you can kick her out of your wedding party now and expect her to come as a guest only. And this while still keeping her boyfriend as a groomsman. You should have known better before asking her to be your bridesmaid, her personality isn’t anything new..  Try to make the best of it. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

well it sounds like she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid anyway. So just wait till the next time she responds rudely to you bouncing ideas off her and just give her an out “hey it’s pretty clear you aren’t into the whole bridesmaid thing, why don’t you just come as a guest? That might work out better. No hard feelings.” If she bought a dress or anything you should reimburse her. 

You should be okay with this ending the friendship though… Because really there’s no polite way to do this. And you’re kind of asking for more drama by giving her the boot when her BF is in the wedding too! 

I personally would just manage my expectations, minimize my contact with her, and go with the flow. Let her show up and wear the dress and that’s it. Better than a shit show of drama.

Post # 4
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1744 posts
Bumble bee

Since she doesn’t want to give input – quit asking.  Just have her show up and wear the dress on the day of the wedding.  That seems like burning less bridges than kicking her out while her BF remains in the wedding party.

Post # 6
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1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Isn’t this the second bridesmaid you’ve lost in like a week?

Post # 8
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364 posts
Helper bee

I get it. Bridesmaids can be DRAMA, which is why I axed all 7 of them. I am having children walking with me instead.  Don’t get me wrong, they are all still my friends and sisters but when you’re stressing me out over shit that I don’t need to be stressing about, I’ll put an end to that REAL QUICK. 

 

Best of luck bee

Post # 10
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Helper bee

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becomingblamo:  we both agreed no bridal party but then again my fi is super easy going. 😬

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

If you axe her you’re going to be burning bridges. If you are fine with this then just be blunt and tell her you don’t want her to become a bridesmaid. IF you still value the relationship, dont ask for her input. She shows up, wears the clothes, do the part and that’s it.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

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becomingblamo:  Wow, “I didn’t sign up to think,” that’s a very sarcastic and rude comment. When I do plan my wedding I plan to only have my two sisters are bridesmaids and I might consider one or two friends and this is exactly why. When it’s YOUR wedding day, you shouldn’t have to deal with any negative energy or stress. You only want those around you who have nothing short of the very best of intentions for you and your future husband.

I would cut her, but like a previous poster said, it will burn the bridge.

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