(Closed) How to request gift cards for wedding shower..

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

sorry, i can’t think of a good way to ask for gift cards. do you think you could get your sister to register at home depot or sears? i think they both have registries. usually people go to showers to give gifts, not gift cards. ‘home improvement’ could be the theme, she might get some useful things and maybe she could exchange the rest. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

“Gift cards” could be the theme, though that may not go over so well.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Well, If your sister does not want to register, she might not like the whole gift catd thing.  It can be a little off putting to guests to be told what to get.  Sometimes word of mouth is better.  I have not told anyone about my registry other than close family and they let people know if they ask.  Why not just let people know about the situation by word of mouth, but not on invite.  Almost every etiquette book says NEVER to include registry information.  Who is handling RSVP? That is the person they will probably ask about registry when they call.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You should ask her Fiance to register for her secretly since he may know what she or they need, or ask him what your theme should be.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@maureen9004: it doesn’t sound like she wants a shower. why are you having a shower for her if she doesn’t want to go to one?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think a suprise shower is really nice.  I tried to tell people not to give me showers, but they insisted.  I am glad they did because it has given me a chance to see so many friends that I had not seen in a while.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You could have a “Home Improvement ” shower. If guests ask, you could suggest gift cards, or work with your mom to develop a list of suggestions from home improvement stores. After the shower she could always return un-needed/unwanted  gifts for a credit at the home improvement store.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@julies1949: I was going to suggest something similar!

Perhaps you and your mom can think of home improvement items she needs and even create a registry at that store under her name. If you pick a store with good return policies she can return everything for store credit or something but then everyone would buy at the same store?!

Maybe her Fiance can help you know if they need any tools or basic home improvement items.

Its always difficult when a couple won’t register. I think a themed shower may help you get around this. The guests should understand if you tell them she hasn’t registered. It’ll be awkward compared to “normal” situations but at least it gives the guests guidance.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t understand why you would host a shower for someone for the sole purpose of getting gift cards.  The point of a shower is to “shower the bride with gifts.” How incredibly boring to sit there and open up cards with gift cards in them.  If your sister doesn’t want to register it probably means she doesn’t want gifts which means she doesn’t want a shower.  I would try to steer your mom in another direction.  What about hosting a surprise tea party or bridal luncheon?  Just an excuse for a party with the girls and have it be nothing to do with gifts/gift cards?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

There is no good way.  If you ‘really hate telling people what to gift’ then you have your answer – don’t do it, it’s rude manners. Let them purchase what they want, if they want to purchase anything at all.

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