Post # 1
This place helped me through such a rough situation I was in a month and a half ago, and I need some advice again.
Long story short, I was in a very one-sided relationship where I gave my all (too much) and I was treated like garbage by my boyfriend. We had an abrupt end after 3 ½ years a month and a half ago. Since then, I gave him all his things and he gave me mine. We have gone no contact, I have not checked his social media, texted or called, and he hasn’t contacted me either.
Although it has been an up and down roller coaster of emotions to try and rebuild my self-esteem and self-worth, I have slowly gotten better. I have learned that healing isn’t linear, sometimes I have amazing days and sometimes I have horrible days. But what gets me through is knowing that it is OK to feel sad and mourn the loss of a relationship. I have been working out and spending so much time with friends and family. Although I do still miss my ex every day, it is not as overwhelming as it was at first. Although there are still some days when I cry and wallow, I get up after an hour and carry on with my day.
While we were dating, my ex bought a dog. Well, I lend him the money to buy a dog. I helped him take care of him and raise him. After 6 months, he got a job in the oil fields so he would be gone for 2 weeks out of the month. He couldn’t take care of him anymore and was trying to leave him with a friend. I ended up taking care of him and continued to do so after my ex quit the job and moved back full time. After that he was just my dog, he would go with me to bathe him, walk him etc. once in a while but he lived with me and I paid for all of his necessities. I know my ex loves my dog; however after the breakup I just thought he would respect he was my dog and leave it at that.
After almost 6 weeks of no contact, my ex texted me “Hey I know ___ is your dog, but would you ever mind if I pick him up for a weekend?”
How would you reply?
Post # 2
Just don’t respond. Don’t jeopardize your progress by putting yourself back in contact with him. He can volunteer at the Humane Society, foster for a rescue organization or get his own dog when he’s ready.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t reply at all. I would remain 100% no contact. In fact, I’d block his number. You don’t need it.
Post # 4
beautylover92 : I’d probably say no, you’ve only been broken up for a month and half and were together for quite some time. He could be using the dog to try and get back with you, but even if he just wanted to see the dog and nothing else, it might bring back a lot of emotions for you when you see him and interact with him.
I would continue no contact.
Post # 5
1- ignore the message and block his number.
2- if he tries to contact you via other methods, just reply with the website for the local shelter or humane society’s voluteering page.
3- If he still won’t leave you alone, write back “FUCK OFF.”
Post # 7
Do not let him sneak into your life this way. He was a crappy dog owner, your dog doesn’t need him. He was a crappy boyfriend, you don’t need him. Ignore him. If you see him, if you have contact with him, your healing clock goes back to zero. It’s very important that you realize this.
Post # 8
“No thanks. Get your own dog.” Then block him.
Post # 9
Don’t reply!!!!! Not his dog anymore BYEEEE
Post # 10
DO NOT RESPOND!
You’ve done a great job at going 6 weeks of no contact. No reason to break that. don’t respond and block the number.
He’s YOUR dog, not your ex’s. He misses him? Too f#$%ing bad.
Post # 11
beautylover92 : Block him. Don’t respond. It’s a manipulation tactic, please don’t fall for it. He does not care about that dog. He’s probably going to try to get some ex-gf sex or maybe even just the ego-boost of knowing he’s back in your head. Ignore it completely and block him on everything.
Post # 12
beautylover92 : Oh sweetie, I just went back and read your previous posts. You have to see that this is a ploy. This is what narcissists do. He can not believe that you are actually moving on with your life. He is desperate to prove to himself that you’re still wrapped around his finger. Don’t give him that satisfaction. Block him and feel like the badass queen that you are — without him!
Post # 13
Don’t respond. I fell into that trap with my ex. I had broken up with him and figured that it wouldn’t be that bad if he wanted to hang out with the dogs. WOW was I wrong. I was 100% over him but he clearly had some lingering feelings of hatred. It ended with him insulting not only me but my friends and my family…Removing any doubt I had about whether I made the right decision when we broke up. He still sends me texts or facebook messages asking me to wish the dogs a happy birthday. I do not respond.
Post # 14
He’s either trying to have free ex-gf sex or he is going to use the dog to impress some other girl (see what a great nurturing guy I am?) to get her in bed.
Either way, you don’t need that BS. Don’t respond, just block.
PS- don’t worry that you are being ‘mean’ by not responding. He was mean to you throughout your relationship. You don’t owe him anything, even being ‘nice’.
Post # 15
Oh, hell no.
The dog knows what loyalty is. Therefore, the dog stays with you.
He doesn’t deserve the dog. Bye boy, bye.