(Closed) How to respond to folks you didn't invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
46405 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

“We are having an intimate wedding and are not able to invite everyone we would like to celebrate our wedding with us.”

Do not make excuses about budget-someone will always offer to pay their own way or pay for a plus one; or anything else. Keep it short ans sweet- give them nothing to counter with.

Post # 5
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@julies1949:  I love this phrasing.  Intimate means different things to different people, so you can just end the conversation with that!

Post # 6
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Uhhhh wow. That’s super presumptuous of them. Iit you barely know this dude like you say, I honestly wouldn’t even respond to that. He will figure it out.

Post # 7
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@julies1949: said…

“We are having an intimate wedding and are not able to invite everyone we would like to celebrate our wedding with us.”

This is Perfect phrasing.



rachelandjosh I suggest that you memorize it… no doubt (sadly) you’ll have to say it quite a bit in the months to come.

Don’t get me started ON HOW RUDE it was that someone would even try to “corner” you on this issue.

The gall of some folks… you were very generous in suggesting that it was because they were single and so didn’t understand the complexities of organizing a Wedding (if only that was true 100% of the time)


Post # 8
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rachelandjosh:  I’m expecting to get several messages from people (specifically old coworkers and several kids that Fiance used to coach–one who thought he was going to be best man!) about this…ugh. 

Post # 9
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So rude! I hate when people do this – even if it’s a very close friend or family member!  Just tell him he hasn’t gotten one because he isn’t invited. I honestly don’t even think people that rude deserve a tactful response! But you probably should go about it nicely lol.

Post # 11
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@rachelandjosh:  LOL @ the facebook block feature. And, really to ask if her child could be the flower girl??  Doesnt even sound like a close relationship so extra weird that they would even ask Weird to ask something like this in general.

Post # 12
1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@rachelandjosh:  Oh wow!  That’s extreme, how dare she?!  I hope you don’t get any more unsolicited messages like this.

Post # 13
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Dear ……..

It’s really good to hear from you. With regards your request for an invite, for a number of reasons we have not been able to invite everyone we would have liked to have been there. However if you are in town at some point, it would be great to catch up!.

Love, …..


Honestly…..e mailing to ask where their invite is?? The way i’d really want to respond to such a request is…”sorry, weddings are expensive and you didn’t make the cut.”

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