(Closed) How to respond to in-law comments about my weight

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@philodendron:  “My doctor says I am a healthy weight for my height and frame. Can we please talk about something else?”


“My weight hasn’t changed. Did you mean to say that I looked nice today?”


Post # 4
4477 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

tell them you haven’t lost weight, and ask them if they’d like you to comment on their bodies now.  That should stop them pretty quickly.


Post # 5
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@philodendron: If there’s anything people LOVE to HATE on, it’s an effortlessly thin person. They’re just jelly.  I’d say “Mind your own fucking business.”

jk, DO NOT say that.


Say, “Well, it’s just how I am I guess; I have a high metabolism.”



Post # 6
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wish I had a good answer! My ILs say obnoxious crap like that, too!

Post # 7
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@julies1949:  +1 Love the “Did you mean to say I look nice today?” I lolled at my desk. 

Post # 8
15 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

Maybe you could just laugh and say “you say that every year!” that might give them the hint that its wearing thin? you could always add “and I’m wearing the same jeans as last 4 years…” Theyre either jealous or the could be say ing the same thing every year without realising or even thinking. 

Post # 9
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ugh, it’s unbelievable to me that anyone thinks it’s okay to comment on someone else’s weight. I would say something like “It really hurts my feelings when you imply that I look unhealthy or too thin. I have maintained the same weight for the past X years and my doctor says I’m in perfect health! Thanks for your concern but your comments make me feel bad. I’m happy with the way my body looks.”

Post # 10
11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@philodendron:  ‘You always say that and I’ve been the same size since you met me!’

My Future Mother-In-Law is always trying to feed me (and I”m not that skinny…) last year FH and I came back from visiting her over Christmas with serious serious sodium bloat, it was pretty gross.

Post # 11
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d respond by asking them to pass the mashed potatoes… 

They’ll eventually shut it when they realize you are not even going to address the topic or discussion.  


Post # 13
534 posts
Busy bee

I hear ya. I’m 5′ 1″ tall, 105 lbs, C cup, not “too skinny” to 90% of the population but I have had perfect strangers tell me, “I wouldn’t want to be quite as thin as you” etc. Ugh.  Seriously, I think it’s jealousy. Just sayin’.

Post # 14
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would address it if it really bothers you. But this sounds like what parent’s/grandparents typically say, not something meanspirted, and not even particularlly about you. You can politely point out you been the same size and that you always eat well.

Both sides of the family are always making those comments to a wide varity of people. So I don’t see as weird. if it was me I wouldn’t make a big deal about it.

Post # 15
232 posts
Helper bee

@philodendron:  Just don’t respond. 

I’ve had the future in-laws make comments too (always female), but I just don’t really acknowledge the subject. 

Just brush it off and start up a new convo or act like you didn’t hear them. Eventually, they’ll get the hint that your body shape/weight isn’t up for discussion 🙂

Post # 16
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d just turn it into a positive. That way it isn’t mean, but it gets the point across that you’re happy with the way you are. I’d say something like, ‘I’ll admit, its pretty nice being able to eat whatever I want and not having to worry about it” because really, what woman wouldn’t be envious of that?

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