Post # 17
A friend of mine is engaged and then I got engaged and she said something about how mine is bigger than hers. I replied with:
“It isn’t the size of the ring that matters. The fact is he loves you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you, thats what matters. You have his love for the rest of your life. So what if it isn’t the most beautiful ring in the store it is yours.”
You could easily make that say me, but to keep it less confusing I just did it that way.
Post # 18
@unixfairy:This reminded me of Church Lady…”Well isn’t that special”
Yeah I just tell people when they are being rude. I have to deal with rude assholes all day long at my work (all of whom are my co-workers) and now I just say “There is no need to be rude”
Post # 20
Lol i love the “Southern” way of doing it very funny!
I get what you are saying about them being rude and not deserving a civil response but the reason why I want to give a civil response is because I dont want to create an issue amongst the family or friends. I dont care about that particular persons feelings, but I want to avoid the stress of dealing with drama with other people. Id rather shut them up in a way where they really DO shut up because they get the message and have no way of reacting to a civil comment.
If I say something like “F u!” or “shut up!” that would probably elicit a major argument which I really really really would like to avoid especially if its coming from some of my fiances more materialistic cousins. I can think of one girl in particular who literally has a album dedicated to all the new, expensive, things she buys every week.
Post # 21
@AlbanianBride27: being from Alabama, I would probably choose one of the “southern” ones. 🙂 For example, well bless your heart, I guess you don’t understand it’s not the size of the stone, it’s the meaning of the ring.
Or the good old…everyone has their opinions, and you are welcome to yours but I am very proud of this symbol of my FI’s love.
Or if they’re single: Well let’s see yours…
Post # 22
I’ve never had anyone make a comment about my ring, I’d be pretty blown away if anyone actually did. That would be very rude.
But I wouldn’t say anything, I wouldn’t even blink. When people say very mean things to try and get my worked up I like to just say nothing and let it hang there for a while until they feel like crap. People only say it to get a reaction, so don’t give them one.
Post # 23
Wow I cant believe people would actually say anything negative about someones ring, thats so rude!
I would have to call them out on it by saying something like, “wow, thats pretty rude. I love my ring, its perfect for me since I dont need a huge rock to validate my relationship.”
That should shame them into realizing how materialistic they are being.
I have a small ring that I absolutely love and I wouldnt want a bigger one. Or in the case of simple styles or non-diamond rocks, people need to understand that everyones idea of the perfect ring is different.
Post # 24
“good thing i’m marrying the man, not the ring.”
Post # 25
I am always so taken aback when someone says something rude to me, I am never able to come up with anything clever back. The best thing I have found is to ask them to repeat themselves. They usually don’t want to repeat themselves and end up looking silly.
Them: Hmm, well I thought it would be bigger.
You: I’m sorry, what was that?
Them: Oh… nothing.
I swear it works
Post # 26
When I first got engaged, the second person I called was my older sister who lives 700 miles away. First off, she wasn’t even happy for me, all she said was “Congratulations, I guess. It’s super tacky to get engaged around Valentines day but whatever floats your boat.” I chose to ignore that. I kinda of understand shes 4 years older and just started dating a guy and not even close to marriage. And then she asked what my ring looked like and I say, “half carat princess cut solitaire, in white…” and she replys back “HALF CARAT! THAT’S IT?!? That sucks.” I told her to stop being a jealous cow and hung up on her. We didn’t speak for 5 weeks.
Post # 27
@JM1217: “jealous cow”
this even made my boyfriend laugh when i read it to him.
Post # 29
The kind of person who would make a snide comment about your ring does not deserve a considerate response. Hopefully you don’t run into many or any people like that. If you do just give them the death ray look and incinerate them on the spot.
Post # 30
@KatyElle:THIS! I use this on my mother all the time.
Post # 31
Tell them to suck it up. It’s not their ring, not their wedding, and not their engagement.