How to respond when people ask when you're having babies?!

posted 5 months ago in Babies
Post # 2
Member
740 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

We tell people that right now we’re finishing up school and saving but we’re more than happy to move up our baby timeline with monthly monetary contributions 😉

Surprisingly, no one has accepted our offer yet.

I feel like you have to have a bit of fun with it because it’s a question we’ve already gotten so much and we aren’t even married yet!

Post # 4
Member
730 posts
Busy bee

I know people are usually coming from a good place when asking this. It’s probably a little bit of “just making conversation” and a smidge just being plain nosey and are unaware that they could be asking an emotionally charged question. I try to take it in stride. For myself personally I just say that we are enjoying beng married but definitely want kids so it’s in the future, just not right now and we aren’t in a hurry. People usually don’t pry if you give them a bone to chew on…  tt least the people in my life. lol Honestly I get it the most from non-family members. My family and hubbys family are all very respectful about not pressuring us. 

Post # 5
Member
7064 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Like someone else mentioned, I feel like 90% of the time people aren’t being nosey when they ask they’re just making conversation because they don’t know what else to talk about. Now then there’s the 10% that IS nosey. Either way I would just say “we’re not at that point yet but look forward to being parents eventually”.

Post # 7
Member
746 posts
Busy bee

“Babies are the last thing on my mind right now.” Rinse, repeat. 

Post # 8
Member
746 posts
Busy bee

Shit. I just read that you’re 22…  people are asking you about children???

Post # 9
Member
180 posts
Blushing bee

brideandblue :  I’m currently expecting, but I’d just respond by saying, “When we feel ready to have them.” 

Like pps have mentioned, I do think that most times it comes from a good place, or just the intention to start a conversation, but it can be insensitive as people don’t know your private life and it’s not so easy for some couples to fall pregnant. 

Post # 10
Member
8919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

brideandblue :  It’s just small talk, doesn’t have to be a big deal. I love your husband’s response. 

Post # 12
Member
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I just say “don’t know” and change the subject.

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors