Post # 1
Hiya thanks in advance for advice 🙂 so h2b is adamant against children attending and I agree in that the cost, the ratio of children would be 30 young children to 100 adults and it’s an evening wedding reception at a venue that is very adult even in layout and is semi formal. We aren’t having children in the wedding party so there will be no children for people to go well those children came. But I figure we can organise something if children rocked up, get some kids meals on the day and make it work! The thing is I would hate that people couldn’t come because a babysitter fell through or some issue when really a couple of kids isn’t a big deal! My partner disagrees and thinks flat out no children no way but that’s stressful for people on the day if there’s dramas for them, I want everyone to come just not so many children, soo.. How would you word an insert to an invite that says pretty much “hey we really really don’t want kids coming but we understand life happens so if there’s an issue call us before hand and we can work something out Because we want you there” thank you:)
Post # 2
nope, it has to be all or nothing- otherwise feelings get hurt and people will take advantage by bringing kids claiming it was “necessary” when really they were just too cheap/lazy to hire a sitter
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
There is no way to word it the way you describe without causing confusion. You either want children there or you don’t. Saying no children unless necessary is odd. The main problem I see is that you and your H2B need to get on the same page.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
You can’t really do that. You need to make a decision – you and Fiance together – if you want to allow children or not. Saying “We’d prefer it if you didn’t but really it’s cool” is worse than an outight no.
You can make explicit exceptions, if you want to “Only children of immediate family are invited to attend” but the best option is just to make a clear decision that kids are okay, or that you’d rather not have them there.
You can also invite children to the ceremony but not the reception. That typically cuts down on the guest list because parents will often leave early rather than get a sitter.
Ultimately, this is something you have to duke out with Fiance and make a clear decision on one way or another. Giving a wishy-washy invite is worse than a straight up exclusion, anyday.
Post # 5
Sorry, but that definitely won’t work but you have multiple options!
1) Invite all kids
2) Only invite the children of immediate family (ex: nieces and nephews)
3) Have an adult only wedding
Anything else tends to cause confusion or breaks up families with multiple children (age restrictions are the worst unless it’s 18+).
Post # 6
you don’t. Invite adults – youll probably have people contact you nonetheless as ask if their Littles are invited (because somehow, once you have children you totally forget that the people on the envelope are invited and that’s it). This is the point at which you could tell them they can bring their minis (if you want)
Post # 7
Thanks ladies for your comments, I saw it as flexible and not wishy washy… but really it’s wishy washy. When we had the engagement party we said nothing and it was during the day on a Sunday afternoon which I thought people would presume as child friendly, and maybe 2 people brought kids and most didn’t, I ordered kids meals and that worked super well… but you can’t do that for a wedding can you, you really need to specify who’s invited hey. Also for the age restrictions I don’t want to do that at all
Post # 8
that’s actually genius… unless everyone asks haha. So case by case basis on who asks