Post # 1
I will start off by saying that I am a “mature” bride (all of 35). My FH is older. We have been together for almost 15 years and finally decided to marry…
Now, I have a house and he has a house. We are combining households in the near future (basically as soon as mine sells!). We will basically have two of everything (including the all important Margaritaville Margarita Machine!!).
To top it all off, he has a VERY good job (mine, not so much….) so there isn’t a whole lot that we go without….. No children + good job = lots of goodies..
We have decided that we do NOT want gifts for our wedding…We would rather have money donated to the local animal shelter in our honor.
How do we get the word out? This also makes it a bit awkward as far as showers are concerned….as there is no registry…. My Mom thinks it would be okay to have a ‘personal shower’…but how much lingere can one girl get???
Post # 3
I went to a wedding where the bride and groom did this. First of all, word of mouth is key. Secondly, they created a website and said on there something along the lines of, “The gift of your company is all that desired. However, in lieu of gifts, please feel free to make a donation to xxxxxxxx” FYI they still got some gifts, but many people did donate
Post # 4
I think that having your charity registry information on your website is a good place to start. Then word of mouth. I think no matter what people are going to gift you something whether you put no gifts on the wedding invites are not.
Post # 5
I’ll admit, I’ve been one to bring a gift when it says “no gifts please”, but always go for something like a bottle of wine. I just feel awkward showing up with nothing. And everyone loves wine right? Or if not, they can regift quite easily. I know. I’m bad.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Put it on your website, and let it get out by word of mouth. Actually, you might want to list a couple of charities that are meaningful to you and give people a choice; then they might feel more like they are selecting a gift for you?
Post # 7
For the wedding, the suggestions here are great. For showers, there are tons of alternative ideas out there! For instance, you could have everyone bring their three favorite recipes, or a bottle of wine, or a board/card game, or a piece of advice, or a cd, or a photo,… Any of this would actually make the gifts more special than something off a registry, and be stuff you never would have thought of for yourself. Of course it depends what you enjoy and how many people are coming. I would adore a book shower, personally! Also, I must say that showers are never obligatory – plenty of people have no shower at all. If you just want a chance to catch up with girlfriends, invite them to a cocktail party or out to lunch instead, most people won’t mind not having to get a gift and play silly games.
Post # 8
@hopewell – gasp! a book shower!!? I have never thought of that! That’s a great idea!!!
Post # 9
Great ideas all!
@hopewell — A book shower?! Now that is a great idea!
@Goldilocks — I certainly would never turn down a bottle of wine hehehe.