Post # 1
My fiance lives in Australia and I in the US. We are having the wedding in Australia as it will also double as a farewell party for him. We are pretty much leaving right after the wedding and 5 days honeymoon that is right after. We don’t want gifts because it will not make sense to transport them half way around the world and may be too costly for us to do so. Fiance is leaving everything behind and will start over in the US. I am sure not sure of the proper wordings to use and could use some advice. I don’t want to sound like we are asking for money beause that is not it.
Thank you in advance!
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Well, since you do live in the US already, it’s possible that people could send them to you before or after the wedding (proper etiquette dictates that wedding gifts are to be sent to the bride’s parents’ home before the wedding).
I would ask for his parents and siblings to spread around (by word of mouth) on their side of the family that any gifts should be sent to your home in the US.
If you really don’t want any gifts, that should be word of mouth, too.
Post # 3
It’s never polite to mention anything about gifts on your wedding invitations. Even if you say you don’t want any, it still implies that you expected gifts and comes across as rude (a bit backwards but that’s how the game goes).
The best policy is to just not register and not mention gifts at all. Give your guests some credit! If they know you are moving to the US after the wedding they should be able to figure out that physical gifts aren’t a good idea. And if people ask what you want, just politely tell them don’t need anything and are just saving up for the move.
Post # 4
I would not put this on the invitation. Will you be having a wedding website? You can post information there. Just explain that you will be leaving to the US right after wedding and no boxed gifts please. Most people give money at the wedding but you just need to be comfortable with the fact that the people who are gift givers may not give you anything.
Post # 5
We don’t want any gifts, money or otherwise, either. We are just saying that we are very blessed and that we only request their presence at the wedding. An alternative would be saying “no boxed gifts,” but that does imply that you only want money.
Post # 6
Thank you all for your response. I am not doing any wedding website nor registry. I will omit this information on the invitation and hope guests will figure it out. I am realling not wanting or expecting anything. I just can’t wait for my fiance to be home with me and want the transfer as smooth as possible.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium
I think word of mouth or giving an address where gifts can be sent to is best. Depending on what’s normal there (gifts vs money) I think not saying anything could result in people still giving you something and you having to figure out how to transport it. They might just assume you don’t have a preference.
I’m going through the same thing sort of. I live in the US, FI is from/living in Belgium and we’re getting married there. I’m coming back here after the wedding and FI will join me when his visa is processed sometime next year, but still neither of us want to transport physical gifts to the US at anytime. He’s assured me everyone gives money, but I still wonder. Some of my family members mentioned sending our gifts to Belgium, which makes no sense to me. i understand where you’re coming from with just wanting to be with your partner permanently.
Post # 8
Have you started the k1 visa?
Post # 9
Can you request “Please no presents, just your presence” in a cute way?
My fiance already has a house and just about everything that we would need, so it isn’t like we are just starting out.
We have been mulling over the idea of either a honeymoon fund or having our guests contribute to a charity of our choice instead. In our case, if our guests insist on giving a gift, I would love to have them donate toward a service dog for a child in my community. 🙂
Post # 10
happyhappyhappa: my thoughts exactly. I was thinking “your presence at our wedding is present enough for us!” Or so,etching of the sort….