(Closed) How to say thank you

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
46465 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is the gift from BBB? If so, I would give them a call and ask for help.

If not, can you ask around to close friends and family to see if anyone can ID ___ and ___?

Post # 5
8520 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You don;t recognise the first names? Can you not compare it to your invitation list? Surely you have first names on there- just a process of elimination. Go through the list and start by looking for both names if that turns up nothing look for one of the names (as it could be their and guest).

If they aren;t on your invite list I would assume that the gift was purchased by mistake- as in BBB gave the couple the wrong registry list.

Post # 6
2602 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not that this is what happened to YOU, but it did happen to US, so–

we got a gift from the registry from two people we’d never heard of. We asked around, and NO ONE in either of our families knew them either. It became obvious that somehow, some couple out there stumbled upon our registry and perhaps mixed us up with a different couple! It happens. 


Post # 8
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@becauseilovehim:  If you (and your mom and MIL) don’t know the person who sent you the gift, then I’m not sure how you would obtain an address to send a thank you note.

Even if your husband’s name isn’t on the package, if it was listed on the registry, then a groom with a similar name could have had your registry mistaken for his. (And if your registry was set up to mail items to the bride prior to your marriage – which is traditional – that would explain why your husband’s name isn’t on the package… Especially if you two weren’t living together.)

Post # 9
4485 posts
Honey bee

It doesn’t seem possible at all to me that someone would even be able to send a gift to someone they don’t know. Never mind why someone would do that. People generally are not that clueless when it comes to who the registry belongs to, regardless if they are familiar with how they work, since you are required to know the names of at least one member of the couple in order to access the info in the first place, and they don’t buy gifts for strangers they have never met and will never see again.

If you truly don’t know these people or who they are and they left no identifying information other than first names, then there isn’t any way to thank them. It’s one of the extremely rare circumstances where it is not expected to give send a thank you card of any kind, since you clearly don’t know who to send it to, much less where they are located. Keep the gift and move on, which is honestly all you can do.

Post # 11
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Did Future Mother-In-Law know them? If not- I’d suggest calling BBB instead, and have the store reach out to them- sounds like they shipped a gift to the wrong couple somehow.

Post # 12
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998
Post # 13
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

All of our BBB stuff (that was shipped from BBB) came with an address on the packing slip. 

That’s so weird.  Maybe you can try to look them up in the white pages and call?  That would be even weirder.  Send a note and say thanks, but you want to make sure it was for you before you really open it.  🙂  I’d be ok with sending a gift on to its intended recipient. 

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