(Closed) How to say your not invited but nicely

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Since you’re still so far out from the wedding, and your guestlist will inevitably change between now and then, I would say something like, “We won’t finalize our guestlist until just before we’re ready to send invitations, which we hope to send six to eight weeks before the wedding.”

If you’re sending Save the Dates, don’t be afraid to not send them to everyone. We mostly sent ours to out of town friends, and relatives, and a few people who we knew would 100% for sure be invited. Better to not send someone a STD eight months ahead and still invite them later than to regret promising someone an invitation when your friendship kind of dissolved instead of growing stronger over the months between!

Post # 4
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

if you’re having a small/medium wedding, you could say something like ‘we actually are only able to have family and really really REALLY close friends at the wedding. wish we were able to invite you to the wedding, but due to venue/budget/insert other excuse, we can’t :(“


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