How to stop feeling down about your wedding

posted 11 months ago in Reception
Post # 16
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

If you look like a whale, then I am doomed! 


I get it! There is so much build up & money spent that when things don’t go right it really sucks ( to be fair, it’s one of my fears). I think it’s terrible that the venue scammed you about the wine. I would certainly try to get your money back for that because you must have a contract to back up your claim. Also, the florist sounds super shady and if she won’t return your calls or blocked you then she deserves an honest review. You may not get your money back but you’ll be helping other brides make an informed decision.   

I’m sorry it wasn’t what you dreamed of but maybe it was perfect for you and your Darling Husband. Best of luck bee & feel better soon! 

Post # 17
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Umm you look incredible so don’t be so hard on yourself!!

Post # 18
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

I am sorry you feel disappointed. You are entitled to your feelings. I believe that, in time, you will be able to slowly switch your focus to what went right. Right now, you need to grieve a bit about what when wrong – or just different…


I’m not sure if it will make you feel better, but I had a HUGE black fly stuck in my dress – super visible in lots of pictures. 

My Mother-In-Law helped me get rid of it and it was surprisingly tricky. Mfker fly was stuck in between layers that fit me snugly.

I still laugh about it.


Post # 19
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

equinity :  Fellow Aussie here! 

You poor thing, the weather was terrible! Meant to be good luck for your marriage though!

But honestly, that photo of you and your hubby is gorgeous.  Love the backdrop, love your dress and you look beautiful.  We are our own worse critics, I felt like a whale in my photos too (I too lost weight and my dress didn’t fit 100%) but no one else sees them the way I see them. 

For all the other little things, I would be trying to get refunds or discounts on the professional vendors who f*** up, but honestly they do not effect the fact that your guests would have had a wonderful time and you got married!!


Post # 20
994 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

time. thats all. i also has a hell of a time at my wedding recently. i posted about it here. its been two months and to be honest i care very little now. am i still pissed about certain things? yep. but i find that i really did get over the smaller details that i was so upset about. it just takes time.

Post # 21
2080 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Wow, you look amazing in your wedding dress. You will stop feeling down about it, I promise. There are tons of things that go wrong at weddings (as you know), but you will eventually remember the good stuff and gloss over the not so ideal stuff. My Fiance and I spent a lot of money on our wedding, the day-before welcome party, and day-after brunch to make sure everyone had an awesome time and to ensure that the food, drinks, and entertainment were top-notch. Here’s a list of stuff that happened:

— an old friend of my FI’s kept offering the other guests drugs and got kicked out of the welcome party and the wedding for drinking too much

— One of my friends almost got into a brawl with another woman for being too flirtatious with her husband

— Two of my friends exchanged words with one of my FI’s friends for allegedly badmouthing his wife (the woman who flirted too much above)

— My husband and I got into a big fight on our wedding night over some of this and didn’t have sex

My overall impression of my wedding? It was AWESOME. I wouldn’t change a thing. People had an amazing time despite the snafus and I have amazing memories of it. You will get over the negative stuff!

Post # 22
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Bee you look gorgeous! I think most people had things go awry at their wedding and not everything went according to plan. Don’t sweat it bee, I was sad for a while too. It took me time to get over, but when I look back at pictures and all the good memories with hubby, the rest doesn’t matter. Perfect is boring anyway. We have a good laugh now at it. Look at the things that went awy during mine and you’ll feel better, really lol

Just SOME of the things that went wrong:
Smashed B M gave an awful speech and insulted me. Our cake was given to another bride so bakery made a quick replacement the night of (it is the most reputable caterer in the area), this was special since it was the only thing I picked it out with Mother-In-Law. Florist didn’t make up the head table piece (on the contract). Someone almost walked out with all our wedding envelopes. Parents were making small talk in the aisle while the precession out of the church was happening, with mom wearing an oversize winter jacket since she was cold (couldn’t wait like 1 minute??). There were picture opportunities missed. The tables in the venue were at first set up incorrectly (had to fix). I tripped over my big dress in my grand entrance since my feet were tired.

At my cousins wedding, the children walking down the aisle and through the ceremony were crying and screaming. Her dad tried to hand out bubbles AFTER bride and groom had left the church and everyone was already hanging out outside casually. No one danced since the lighting was awkward. Maid/Matron of Honor gave a half hour speech and everyone just started talking. Those were just things I noticed too so I’m sure there was more.

Another cousins wedding had crappy photos, literally not 1 photo the hubby was smiling in. Maid/Matron of Honor speech disastrous. Again no dancing.

Post # 23
2 posts
  • Wedding: October 2019

equinity :  You look absoulutely gorgeous and the two of you look so happy and in love! That dress is stunning, where did you get it?

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