(Closed) How to strongly word RSVP request?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@icetea:  I don’t know that people will use the RSVP tool, no matter how strongly you word it. People aren’t great about RSVPing regardless, but online RSVP’s seem so informal, that people may not see them as mandatory, no matter how you word it…

Post # 4
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think any strong wording belongs on a wedding invitation.

If you are not doing response cards, maybe include your phone number.  What about the people that don’t use the computer? 

Post # 5
1222 posts
Bumble bee

Could you do it by word of mouth? No RSVP=No Seat. But there will always be those you have to call to remind or ask for their RSVP.

Post # 6
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think there are two schools of RSVPing– pulling your hair out to get people to RSVP the correct way or dealing with the chaos of having people RSVP in the way they want.

If the only way you want RSVPs is via a website, I would have something along the lines of “The favor of your reply is requested by May 20th at http://www.weddingwire/icetea“. Please make sure your wedding website will allow people to RSVP on mobile phone (ie no flash). Nothing irks Fiance more than when he can’t do it on his phone/tablet. Having to pull out the laptop to RSVP means we will put it off. Then come May 21, email and text people reminders with the link. If I get texted a link, I do it right away.

If you are okay with chaos, you can say  “The favor of your reply is requested by May 20th at http://www.weddingwire/icetea, [email protected], or 123-456-7890″. My best friend had RSVPs from texts, emails, websites, and cards and had a great response rate. However, only 25% of guests RSVPed her prefered way.


Post # 7
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Unfortunately, there are some people who are going to miss the inference that an RSVP is still necessary for planning purposes, if an RSVP card is not included.

If you aren’t utilizing the cards for whatever reason, you might end up stuck having to contact guests who haven’t responded prior to the wedding to get your final headcount, because I don’t know that there is a way to include on your invites that a visit to the wedsite is mandatory.

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