- 5 years ago
My boyfriend is having a rough time and has recently realized that he may be depressed. I am urging him to go talk to someone, and I think he will soon. But he’s in a situation academically that’s really sucky – he may fail multiple classes this semester and will take another year to graduate. He’s feeling very insecure about all of this and has been freaking out a lot this week. He has self-defeating tendencies which has gotten him in this situation over and over again. He’s feeling bad about his grades and the fact that all of his friends graduated last semester and have jobs or are in grad school, etc. And although his family is supportive, he’s freaking out about how they will react since he was raised in a family where it was expected to go straight through college, get a degree and get a good job or go to grad school. He wants to do better so badly but is having a hard time with it and needs to take some time away from school.
So there’s a lot going on emotionally for him. He broke down several times yesterday and just called me sobbing from the back room at work. In addition to all of this, he’s worried about us. I’m telling him over and over that I’m 100% here for him and that we are solid and that he shouldn’t worry. I’m also trying to help him figure out a plan for the next year (which is pretty straightforward honestly, but he’s so freaked out that he’s shooting everything down and doesn’t believe in himself).
I know that after he has all of his grades back and knows for sure what’s going on, he will be able to calm down and be more rational. But right now is very difficult and I am just trying to be here for him. I am doing my best, but any tips or similar experiences are appreciated!