- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
This has been affecting me for more than 10 years. Affecting my relationship, family and myself. This hatres feeling started when I was 13 when I came back from out state school. My parents were going to divorce. Why? My father had an affair with this woman who my family been friends for many years. We knew her husband of that time and her daughter 5 years younger than I. My parents fight all the time during that time because moneys issue. My father gives all our moneys to this woman. My mother’s health started to get worst during that same year. My mother lost her job and her health was getting worst. She needs surgery, not one surgery, but three. We don’t have the moneys. I called the doctor at that time. He won’t even want to see my mother because we don’t have moneys. My brother and sister had to work really hard to support my mother went outside the US for surgeries. I went alone with her. I was crying by myself in the dark the whole time my mother is in surgery. Seating in a hospital room by myself really worry in that time. It was like a nightmare to me. My dad took the moneys and divorce with my mother. Leaving my mother with nothing. I had hatres against that woman. I never talk to my dad after that. Many years past now. My dad came to bother us because he said he was the one who didn’t want us, not we didn’t want him. So, he can come as he likes. I yelled at him and it is really hurt in my heart. My dad’s mistress (even they already marry now) and her daughter told people who we know that my family (mother, sister, brother and I) are stupid because we don’t know how to fight in that time. We don’t know how to go to court in that time to fight with my father to get the moneys. Now she and her daughter are so rich and we are so poor. She and her daughter didn’t have to work because they have all these property and business in their hands. They don’t have to work like us and be look down like us. She said we are stupid, otherwise, what she and her daughter have will be us. She said my father won’t give us the moneys because he thinks his children are stupid. No one will be success.
I am so hurt . I didn’t hire lawyer to sue my dad for child support or for the moneys he took from us. I just don’t want my father to go to jail in that time. I had this hatres in my heart to this woman to the point I just want to hit her, but then it is all right. This hatres that I am having controlling my life right now. I want to forgive my dad, but he keep hurting me now. I really don’t know how to let it goes. I don’t know what to say to everyone. Can anyone gives me some solution or experience?