Post # 1
I’d really like advice from those who have dealt with this personally or indirectly.
My Darling Husband is gaining weight. He has always been stick thin, but since we got our own place in September and I’ve been doing all of the cooking (we lived with his parents before and Mother-In-Law and I took turns making dinner) he’s gained around 10lbs. It doesn’t really show, but he keeps telling me he feels fat and he’s afraid that he’ll keep gaining.
The thing is, I cook incredibly healthy. I’m celiac, so we eat gluten free, very low carb, tons of veggies and a variety of different meats and other proteins. I’ve always weighed 110lbs since highschool and have lived on my own before and never gained. Darling Husband is eating the same food, but he goes back for big second helping after big first helpings and sometimes even more after. He says it’s because he loves my cooking, which is flattering, but it needs to stop. When he complains about his weight I’ve told him that I think it’s the amount that he eats, and once in a while he now resists going back for seconds/thirds, but not as often as he should.
How can I help him to learn portion control? I’m totally aty a loss, and I don’t want to mother him by dishing out his food myself.
Post # 3
@bunnymama: We usually dish food up in the kitchen (like whoever is cooking does) and it isn’t a big deal. I am not sure if that would help at all or if he’d go back anyway.
I would try working some more exercise in. I think this is something he needs to realize on his own (portion control). If you keep bringing it up, it’ll turn into nagging and he might resent you.
Post # 4
My step-mom got my dad this nifty little tool & he loves it! The Meal Portion Control Plate- it has to size openings for your major groupings!
Post # 5
@bunnymama: How about cooking smaller portions? One for you and one for him. That way the food will be gone and no going back for seconds or thirds will be possible.
Post # 6
We plate in the kitchen. We also generally don’t cook more than what is appropriate for a meal. If we cook with the intention of leftovers, we plate what we’re going to eat, then box up the rest and put it in the fridge immediately. Out of sight, out of mind (and temptation).
Post # 7
Make less food and buy smaller dishes (not the huge dishes big home stores always sell for gigantic portions). Also, it’s okay to bring out snack food periodically to share with him, since snacking makes you less hungry and less likely to binge at mealtime.
Post # 8
@bunnymama: My Darling Husband had the same problem for a while. There are a few tricks from the experts, like using smaller plates and eating slower and all that, but honestly, what works for us is this: I always take leftover food in for lunch at work during the week. When Darling Husband gets up to get seconds after he’s already had plenty on his first round, I start shrieking at him that he’s “STEALING MY LUNCH!!!!” Haha then he feels bad and sits back down, and if he really is still hungry later then he’ll have a bowl of cereal or something. Now he knows better than to just keep eating and eating, since he really hates the sound of my shrieking in outrage over his eating my lunch right out from under me.
Post # 9
@iarebridezilla: lol. This sounds like it might work.
Usually the reson I cook more than 2 portions is so we can box leftovers for lunches. Thank you PPs who said to box it immediately. I’ll start doing that and see how it goes.
Post # 10
I would make his plate then immediately box up the lunches for the week. if he goes for seconds, the food is already put away.
Post # 11
I think boxing up leftovers is a good idea. I have a couple others that work for Darling Husband (sometimes).
The first portion I give him is small. Then he still gets to have seconds, but it’s not a huge amount.
He has to wait 5 minutes between getting firsts and getting seconds. Sometimes that’s all it takes to decide that he’s actually full, and even if he does get seconds, it tends to be less if he waits.
Post # 12
I have an issue with portion control and the advice here is great, so I wanted to say thanks, bees 🙂
Post # 13
I always try and portion things out for both of us and them promptly pack up the rest for lunches and freezer meals.
Post # 14
@iarebridezilla: this suggestion really does work! I do this to my husband, “SAVE ME SOME FOR LUNCH!” as he’s headed back for more.
Post # 15
If you don’t want to do the boxed leftovers thing (or if that feels too mom-y to you) I would suggest plating his first portion and plating it smaller. Sure he will go back for seconds, but he probably wont take more than he would have if he’d had a big first portion too.
My husband kind of does this to himself. He gets seconds basically every night and one time I asked him why he didn’t just put more food on his plate the first time and he said its because he likes the idea/routine of getting up for seconds buts he really only wants to eat 1 big plateful. So he gets a smaller first portion and a smaller second portion and then he feels like he got to go back for seconds but he didn’t really eat THAT much. (sometimes. sometimes he just eats a ton. but mostly not lol)