(Closed) How to teach son about Mommy's "no penis"

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 31
1800 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

cmsgirl:  hahaha! Got to love kids. No one is more honest At the most innapropriate times. The perk is they are much more likely to notice I bought a new outfit or got my hair done than my husband And are also more willing to tell me when my bum looks big in something!

Post # 32
25 posts
  • Wedding: July 2017

My nephew says ‘gina. He even said “auntie has 2 ‘ginas!” ….not to sure why but it’s definitely one of his most quoted moments.

Post # 33
399 posts
Helper bee

I agree with most posters, just call it what it is, a vagina.

One time when my nephew was showing with his mum, my sister, he got visibly upset, gasped in horror and pointed at her vagina exclaiming “oh no mummy your willy fell off. I go find it”.  They live in the UK so willy isn’t really a cutesy name, it’s interchangeable with penis.  

My sister tried not too laugh toooo much, but she took the learning opportunity.  She explained that most boys have a willy.  Daddy has a willy, you have a willy, even Grandad has a willy.  He was cool with that but before my sister could carry on with the anatomy lesson, he said Mummy doesn’t have a willy, she has a flower.

He was only about 2.5 at this point.  She’s keeping her flower until he’s a wee bit older 😉 hehe


Post # 34
276 posts
Helper bee

Use the correct terms. It’s not a vagina, it’s a vulva. But vagina is better than any cutesy name. If you can call a own is a or is, a vulva can and should be called a vulva.

Post # 35
3244 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Growing up it was willy for penis and tuppence for vagina. When I have kids we’ll use correct anatomical terms. I also plan to be nude confortably with my toddler children regardless of their sex. I want nudity to be something that is seen as natural and healthy and shameless. 

Post # 36
58 posts
Worker bee

My son knows the correct terms for penis testicles and vagina, but we also call it boy stuff and girl stuff.

Post # 37
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Yipeebee:  from now on, whenever I read an Agatha Christie novel or story featuring Tuppence Beresford, I will be mentally renaming her vagina.


i think it is silly to be perfectly fine using the name penis, or using derogatory terms for the word “vagina,” but not using the word itself. There was a nightclub/meat market in the town I grew up that was named “snatch” at one point and I insisted on always calling it vagina. For some reason it really made my brother and his girlfriend (now wife) very uncomfortable…

Post # 39
1245 posts
Bumble bee

Sunshine09:  Yes! I don’t get the association with ‘no penis’ means a woman is missing something. I grew up with pee pee for both in ‘regular conversation’ but always knew a man and woman had different parts. 

I think I would use the standard penis and vagina for my children but I have no qualms against a nickname for communication sake as long as it’s the same for girl and boy parts.

Post # 40
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with most replies: vagina/vulva would be the most correct term.

Most people are embarassed of saying these things because they think of them as very sexual. They are not! They are anatomical medical names like hand or head. I believe it is important to tell your kids (progressively as they get older) about reproduction but make a distinction to sex. When I was a kid this kind of talk always started with “when two people fall in love, they get married and then….”

Be open with your kids 🙂 good luck

Post # 41
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would personally call it a vagina. However, when I was growing up my parents somehow came up with the term “she-she”. But honestly, I feel like you’re calling a penis what it is so you might as well try using the correct term for the female anatomy as well. 🙂

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