Post # 1
So I went to David’s Bridal to exchange my dress this weekend and tried on some bridesmaid dresses while I was there. My bridesmaids are spread out geographically so having a day together to try on dresses wasn’t really possible. Anyways, I found a dress I loved and would like the girls to wear it for the wedding
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Long-Strapless-Chiffon-Dress-with-Pleated-Bodice-F15555_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses (in Marine)
How do I go about telling them? I was thinking that sending an email to all the girls with a link to the dress would be easiest, but can I just say “here is the dress I like, please buy this one”? I have never been a bridesmaid so I don’t know if they would be offended that they didn’t really have a say in it and I chose it for them.
Any other brides in this situation? Thanks bees! 🙂
Post # 3
Yeah, email is fine. Or call. No big deal. Just tell them that you found the bridesmaids dress and they should get measured and order their dress by X date.
Post # 4
I told mine by text and sent them a picture. 2 were with me and the other 2 got a text. I tried to get them all together the following weekend so I could see them all in what I picked but only the 2 I originally went with could make it so I sent them the pics and asked them to order by Oct. 15. Come to think of it, the last 2 weddings I was in they told me via text too lol.
Post # 5
Yeah, just email or text them telling them you found the dress! Tell them the color and any ther information they need regarding it. You may want to give them a date to get it by as well.
Post # 6
My bridesmaids are spread out, too, and I have had good luck coordinating through a secret Facebook group.
FWIW, I think they will be pleased with this choice. It’s a flatting color, and isn’t very expensive.
Post # 7
@pinotgrigio: my SIL just texted us a pic of the dress ( her BMS were all spread out geographically too) and said this is the dress! She then sent an email with the purchasing information. It was fine!
Post # 8
when i picked out my girls’ dresses i sent them a picture and said “this is your dress. go buy it.” just kidding, i was nicer than that, haha.
my girls didn’t have a say in their dresses either. i just asked if there were any styles they didn’t care for or weren’t comfortable with and tried to take it all into consideration when i was shopping.
also, i would give them a definite deadline for when to order otherwise they may take forever to do it and you’ll be stressing over it.
Post # 9
As long as you’re sure there are no budget constraints, I think an email is fine.
Post # 10
Just letting them know you selected the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is fine- especially since they are so spread out! I was talking to my Future Sister-In-Law about this yesterday- she got married last year and tried to involve all the BMs and make sure everyone liked the dress- she said it was a nightmare. She recommended that I just pick out a dress and have the BMs order it. The dress you picked out is a great Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and should be flattering on everyone.
Post # 11
@pinotgrigio: I’m kinda in the same boat as you. I have 3 girls who live locally (yet have different work schedules) and 3 that live out of town. Its been a challenge getting together. I have created a private fb group for everyone to post dresses they like and hope to get them to agree on something (well most of them as I know I can’t please everyone). I would send them an e-mail saying you found this dress, send them the link and see if they all have a DB near them to go try it on. Have them send you a picture of them in the dress to make sure you like the look on your bm’s. I went shopping with one of my bm’s and we searched for a dress I loved, finally found it and it looked horrible on my bm (even she agreed she didn’t like it). Once you see it on you might change your mind. Hopefully it works for ya!
Post # 12
I sent my girls an email with the link to the dress I picked, the link to the authorized retailer we’re going to buy them from (rkbridal), the color name, and the absolute last date they need to order by. Then I’ll touch base with them a month before the orders are due and a week before to make sure everyone has gotten theirs in.
Post # 13
Thank you so much everyone! I guess I was worried for no reason 🙂
Post # 14
@pinotgrigio: I would phrase the email in a way that allows a bit of commentary…I gave my bridesmaids about four options from which to choose. All of them wanted straps for comfort reasons. You might at least want to come up with a strapped version so they don’t feel uncomfortable.