(Closed) How to tell bridesmaids, “Never mind”

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
962 posts
Busy bee

@6598731ssfse3: I would give them other duties and have them do a lot of the traditional bm things (get hair done, go out with you) but just don’t have them walk up the aisle

Post # 5
962 posts
Busy bee

@6598731ssfse3: Could they do a reading? Could they sing a song? Escort people to their seats and hand out programs?

Post # 6
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

There’s really no good way to tell your teenage sisters that they are bridesmaids, and then to go back on your word and tell them they’re not.

What about having them walk down the aisle and having reserved seating for them in the front row, and telling them that you want them to be BMs and walk down the aisle, but for the ceremony you wanted to do it differently and have just you and your Fiance, but they’ll have special seats and you’ll put their names in the programs and everything. Something like that.

My real advice, from reading your first post, would be to put your foot down and have the lovely simple small wedding you originally wanted. But if this is truly not an option, I think that acknowledging your sisters as BMs and having them walk down the aisle, but having you two alone at the altar, would be a good compromise for them.

Post # 7
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I may not be a bride yet, but I certainly know teenagers. I think to keep your sisters’ feelings intact, you need to sell them on a really cool new vision. I would still call them bridesmaids, but show them pictures of mismatched bridesmaids. If you are okay with it, I would still let them walk down the aisle, like grandparents get seated. Have reserved seats in the front row for them. This way they could still think of themselves as bridesmaids, but you and your groom are standing up alone, like you want. Would that work?

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