(Closed) How to tell extended family you're engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My mom told my extended family. I don’t speak to my grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins that often (Pretty much I get a phone call on my birthday and that’s about it), so she was the one who spilled the beans. I wouldn’t have cared if they knew or not.


Edit: No one except my immediate family (Mom/dad and brothers) have met my to-be husband. So… it’s not really all that weird.

Post # 4
21 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a HUGE family all over the world. My mom told most of them, a few found out on Facebook. I did call my closest aunt but that’s about it. 

Post # 6
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When your cousins get engaged (assuming that’s happened), how do you find out?

We just posted it on facebook after calling grandparents. There was one cousin we told in person, but that’s because he lives just down the road, the others are all over the country.

Post # 7
3340 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Most of my extended family found out I was engaged when they received our Save the Date.  Most of them have met my fiance, however, because we’ve been together for 6 years.  If you really feel that awkward about it, your family could host an engagement party so they could all meet your fiance.  But honestly, I don’t think it’s that big a deal.

Post # 9
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We’re sending out engagement announcements but we honestly don’t ever see extended family, don’t even know a lot of them, and they won’t be coming to the wedding.

Post # 10
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@iheartmarshall:  If there are particular family members that you want your SO to meet, maybe just take a weekend off and go visit them! If they only live 20 minutes away, I’m sure you guys could manage it, and you don’t have to make it “This is the guy that I’m getting engaged to soon,” just “Hey, I realised you two haven’t met my boyfriend, so we thought we’d come out for the day to have lunch and get acquainted.” Or something along those lines, maybe?

Post # 11
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

They found out on FB. I’m not close to any of my family other than my parents. My mother told my only living grandparent when she was visiting, but I still haven’t heard a congrats or anything else out of her, ha.

Post # 13
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have a large extended family (aunts/uncles/cousins), so when we got engaged, I typed up a short and sweet email saying “I wanted to let everyone know my exciting news! Fiance and I have been together for nearly 5 years and today he proposed!! Of course I said yes! We have not set a date yet, but of course we will keep everyone updated! :)” I sent that along with a couple of photos of us from the day he proposed just because some of my family had never seen or met him. I even sent it to aunts and cousins I am closer to just so they were in the loop, and so I didn’t have to call everyone individually, that way they heard it from me and not another family member.

Post # 14
8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@iheartmarshall:  lol, Thats so similar to me, I thought I had actually wrote it and forgot about it. None of my family live around me, so they havent met him. Only my mom and one of my aunts have met him. But in February we’re going to go visit my dad, and he’ll be meeting my dad, step mom and brother. The rest of my family I rarely even see, so I dont really even care about them knowin him.

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