Post # 1
This is a hypothetical first of all! I am engaged and we had planned a wedding for this June but we cancelled it in January for a number of reasons. We are still very much together, in love and engaged and want to get married some time this year or next. What size, style of wedding or location is still a mystery to us. All we know is that the wedding we cancelled we don’t want that one anymore! I was just wondering if we chose to elope at some point, something really private and simple (but beautiful of course!) what’s the best way to break the news to family?
FI’s father has expressed many times he wouldn’t mind if we ran away and got married, I think he just wants his son to marry me! 🙂 However whilst I am not really close with my family and live quite far away from them I have a feeling a few of them would be a bit put out I didn’t have a wedding they could go to. Some of those people would be thinking of themselves though, but I don’t want to upset others like my big sister. If we did elope how to do it? It’d have to be by telephone so when? How long after we elope? What do I say? :S
“Hullo sorry to let you know but I am now married.” ???
And I wouldn’t want them thinking I’m phoning them up to tell them this and thinking we should get presents!!
Post # 2
MrsSpagan: You could always let them in on your plans to elope ahead of time so they don’t feel out of the loop. Whenever you decide to tell them, just say “We decided this is best for us and this is what we want”. That’s really what it’s all about, what is best for you guys.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church
I love the Dorie and Justin approach: http://vimeo.com/43355290 All of their family and friends were just so happy about them being married and they got to capture it on video.
What is it that your family members would miss: the together time, the dancing, the free drinks? Maybe if you identify that, then you can play to what it is you think they really want when you tell them…
For instance, we’re planning on telling my parents first, so they’ll feel special, then telling my siblings by e-mail (because they don’t care), and then my extended family at the family reunion, where we’ll provide a special home-brew for all (because we’ll already be together, and more drinks are better in that crowd!).
Post # 4
OH and I are thinking of this and others reactions do concern me. I have basically told my Mum that elopement is a big option that we are very likely to take and after the ‘shock’ she said that she wouldn’t feel angry or put out. Just a little sad that she didn’t see us but happy for us none the less. I am hoping this reaction is the same in OH family. I think we will tell OH mum before we do it.
Everyone else will know through a text or facebook. We (I) love the idea of a photograph of us holding a “Just eloped” sign to text everyone afterwards.