(Closed) how to tell florist I hate it.

posted 9 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

You need to let her know that although she’s on the right path, that wasn’t exactly what you were looking for.  Hopefully you can speak to her before she makes more of them.  If anything you can offer to help work on the prototype so that all of them look exactly as you like.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would just tell her straight out. Of course be nice about it but you have to tell her. This is a business relationship and I am sure she has had someone not like her recommendations about candles or flowers before. If I did not like where my florist was going with something i just told her that was not really what I was looking for…I was thinking of this. Or I like this but not that. Maybe show her again the picture you had and ask if it is possible because you have your heart set on it. Do not worry about hurting her feelings! I rather tell someone I don’t like their idea then to have hundreds of little tins that I hate all over my wedding. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Be nice but tell her directly.  It’s a florists job, and they will get excited about things they find.  But think of it this way, it’s not entirely wasted effort for her, there probably is a future client who would want to use them.

When I saw my mock up, I made it a point to first mention the things I like, but then be direct about the things I didn’t like.  They were extremely good-natured about the whole thing, and I think by starting off with positive comments it did not come across as rude.

So tell her, "I’m so glad you like my idea and I appreciate that you spent so much time trying to find a way to create it.  That’s close but not exactly waht I’m looking for.  I want something more abstract (not hearts) and in white, not tins".  I’m in a totally different field, but I really appreciate specific criticisms of my work (e.g. not just to hear that my analysis is wrong, but what parts of my code need rewriting etc).  This way it can be part of the process that brings you closer to your vision.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

how to contact depends a lot on how you’ve interacted in the past.  I generally think it’s best to use a more interactive form of communication (like in person or phone), but if you think that email would enable you to be clearer (e.g. pictures) that’s not inappropriate.  If you can’t meet in person, I’d say the ideal is a phone call followed up with a descriptive email (so she has the info in her records, you’re not her only client I would guess).  But I did a lot over email with my florist since I live across the coutnry, and it was fine.

Post # 8
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

If possible, find the image of exactly what you are looking for and stop by?  If not you should at least call.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Just let her know (and the sooner the better) that these are not exactly what you were looking for (and tell her what about the original inspiration is what you really liked–the stuff that is totally not like what she is showing you). But you definitely need to let her know right away.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

OMG I know EXACTLY what picture you are talking about! I wanted them too soooo bad!! But, when I was talking with people about it, they were saying they’d be afraid that they would catch on fire if the spray is flamable. You could defintiely make them though. They sell the spray at JoAnn fabrics, and on amazon. The spray is cheap, its the doilies that cost a bit much. I’m not sure if the paper ones work. BUT, I did see something myself that I considered a close 2nd and was really easy to make (but we didn’t, since I was having a "destination" wedding kinda, so it would be too difficult to lug them all over and I wouldnt be back there before the wedding to try it myself

 

http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/decor/easy-valentines-day-craft-ideas

 

oh, here’s a link to the spray if you wanted to try the doilies thing

http://www.joann.com/joann/catalog.jsp?CATID=cat2845&PRODID=prd7766′ defer=’defer

Maybe you could use some sort of lacy fabric instead of a doilie? I just don’t know how they get the shape. Maybe stick it on a small cup or something, idk.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

the container says its non flamable, so maybe just try a couple and see how it goes? Can always try the flameless led candles, but I personally dont like those…

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