Post # 1
So I am largely covered in tattoos and have been for about four years now. All of my extended family lives in New Zealand (Im in Aus) and though i am in relatively close contact with my maternal grandparents, i never told them about my tattoos (on my mum’s insistence) thinking when i visit i can keep them covered as its so cold there and they are unwilling to travel to us. well since the engagement my nanna decided that her and my pop will surprise us with a visit – i didnt think they would even travel for the wedding so i thought i could just send selected pics after the fact (wearing them proudly for the wedding) there is no way i can cover them when they come over, its way too hot and franklyi dont think i should have to in my own home. my mum is terrified they will disown me. she is freaking out about the whole visit. i have one whole sleeve of tattoos on my right arm, my whole left side done (which they wont see) and my foot. how should i aproach this?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
Is your mum justified in thinking they will feel this way? Or do you think that they will accept it? My sisters have some piercings that my grandparents don’t like, but they just try to ignore the piercings for the most part.
You could just wait and see what they say when they arrive. I might try speaking with them on the phone and say something like, “I can’t wait to see you, I feel like it’s been so long… I’ve made a few changes since you last saw me and I don’t want to shock you…”
This one’s a bit tough!
Post # 4
Tattoo’s are a part of who you are. I think you need to prepare for them being shocked, and try and cover as much as you can, simply to make life easier on yourself.
But on the other hand, you have tattoo’s, end of story. Maybe the best thing is to be open and say you know it’s not to their taste and they wont like it but try and explain to them why you like them and the meaning behind things and the beauty you see in them.
Is there a chance your mother is over reacting about how they’ll feel?
I think it’s much better for them to know before the wedding, then they won’t have the shock of seeing you in a wedding dress with them, plus they have a little time to get used to the idea before then and it wont cause as much drama/any issues on the day.
When it comes down to it, if they love you they’ll accept it even if they don’t like it and you need to be true to who you are.
Post # 5
I would just not mention it and see what happens. The only thing that concerns me is your Mum’s reaction. Why does she think they will react like this?
Post # 6
Maybe you could try a loose fitting long sleeve or 3/4 sleeve linen shirt with the tats peeking out. Then broach the subject gently, showing them a bit more tattoo every day. Just so they aren’t too shocked.