Post # 1
We aren’t having an adults-only reception, but most of my childhood wedding memories consist of the events being BORING. We would like to have a space where adults with toddlers can drop off their kids for babysitting and older kids (like, under-12s who get the kiddie meals) can actually enjoy themselves. Fiance is concerned about offering childcare on our RSVPs, though, because we don’t yet have any workers hired to watch kids in our ceremony and reception venues. Also, as we don’t live in the city where we’re getting married, we would be relying on word-of-mouth and third-party vetting to find workers.
We thought that we would like to do childcare for under-3’s at the church and then a kids’ room for everyone under 12 at the reception. The room would have everything from toys and books to crayons, a movie, a wii, and kiddie tables where they could eat kiddie meals. Totally optional, of course–we don’t want parents to feel like we’re kidnapping their children because they’ll disrupt the reception–we just want it to be fun for the little people and also want to give toddlers’ parents a safe, fun place to drop off their kids if they want to have a more adult evening in the main reception area.
How would you express this to guests? Website announcement stating that parents who would like childcare should contact us for further information? Should we just individually contact the parents? Should we just not say anything and then have a signs up at the ceremony and reception directing guests to childcare? The only problem with the last one is that we won’t know whether to do place settings in the main room or the kids’ room until guests get there…
Help! What would you do?
Post # 4
i would say both put it on your website and then contact those guests personally to let them know of your options. putting it in your invites may or may not seem pushy to sensitive parents.
Post # 5
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I agree with this. The RSVP option wouldn’t be on the invites themselves, though, as we’re doing online RSVPs. I was just thinking about having as another check box right next to the dietary needs box…
Here’s the exact wording I drafted (up for revision!):
Would you like to have childcare for your infant or toddler aged 0-3?
- Yes. Please contact me.
- No, I do not need childcare.
- I am not sure; please contact me with more information.
- No, but my child will need a highchair at the reception.
Post # 6
We’re having an adults only reception (expect the few kids in the wedding party). My plan is to ask a few of my brother’s friends (expert babysitters) to watch the kids back at the hotel. I’m going to put it on our wedding website and also let people know by word of mouth that if they are interested they should contact me just so I can let them know the details and let the girls know how many kids they should expect to watch. I’m hoping that will work well.
Post # 7
my husband and i are renewing our wedding vows in october. on the card in our invitation envelope, we have the following: latter part of reception will be “grown and sexy-adults only”. our d.j. will make the announcement when the music starts, and every 30 minutes after. the beginning of our receptino will be family oriented. we have 3 girls and the music will be cool for them but after the grown and sexy part begins, the music will be all uncut, booty shaking, butt grinding, 🙂 if people wanna stay for the entire recep., they will not even bring their children at all..