(Closed) How to tell guests I am having a buffet..?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Commenting to follow–I’ve wondered about this, too!

Post # 4
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I’m not letting our guests know.  They will realize it when they walk into the reception.

Post # 5
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

They’ll assume. You don’t need to tell them ahead of time. 

Post # 6
1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I didn’t tell my guests we were having a buffet. No one asked. When I get invitations without a choice, I assume buffet. I think it’s unnecessary (although not a problem if you do.)

Post # 7
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m not telling them, that’s what we’re doing too.  I would assume that if I wasn’t asked for a meal choice, then it would be stationed/buffet.

Post # 8
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@trckyvicki:  No need to mention, but it’s not a faux pas or anything if you do.

Post # 9
557 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agree with PPs, no need to tell them.  When they walk into the reception and see the stations/buffet set up, they’ll figure it out.


wanted to add, no meal selection doesn’t always mean buffet however. I’m having a plated and guests are selecting their meal the day of so there’s no need for me to have them select an entree on the RSVP card.

Post # 10
34 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think it is necessary to inform guests that it will be a buffet.  They will know when they get there.  It shouldn’t really make any difference to them.  🙂  They will assume it is a buffet, anyway, since they are not asked to pick a dish on the RSVP.

I am doing a buffet, as well.

Post # 11
12326 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think it matters enough to mention you’re having a plated dinner or buffet.  As long as you’re not just serving cake and drinks and people are expecting dinner.

Post # 12
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

No need to inform them. I’d assume a wedding is a buffet if I’m not asked my entree choice on the RSVP card.

Post # 13
1946 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why would they need to know ahead of time?

Post # 14
7111 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

As long as you are providing food I don’t think you need to tell  them it will be a buffet. 

Post # 15
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You don’t need to tell them.

Post # 16
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had a buffet at my wedding. No one needed forewarning. Everyone was well aware of it when they saw the buffet tables set up. Like PPs, I’d also think they realized that in advance when I didn’t request their meal selections on my RSVP card.

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