Post # 17
I wouldnt assume buffet if there werent a choice because I have been to weddings where I chose what I would eat when I got there.
But even it I was “surprised” by a buffet, so what? Its still fooooooood 🙂
Post # 18
It never occurred to me to tell people that we are having a buffet. Buffets are yummy… and mine is MUCH more delicious than any plated dinner that I have been to. They are getting fed… that’s enough!
Post # 19
@trckyvicki: I am putting on my invite (and also did on Save The Date)…
a light buffet supper followed by some life music & dancing I personally did this so that people didnt expect some big fancy extravaganza…
Post # 20
I always assume if there’s no meal choice on the rsvp that it’s buffett – and that’s usually correct. 25% of the time or so, you get there and realize they’re having a plated seat down meal that you choose off the menu when you get there.
Post # 21
Why do you feel the need to mention that? People should be happy they are being fed regardless of what one would prefer.
Post # 22
I think they’ll figure it out when the see the buffet line! And I don’t know ANYONE who has a problem with buffets!
Post # 23
I’ve never been told ahead of time if I was attending a wedding with a buffet (and the majority of them have been). I’m also curious why you think they would need to know ahead of time.
Post # 24
I don’t think it really matters. There’s no real preparation required by them besides standing up to get their food. They certainly don’t need 6 weeks notice, and if I wasn’t asked a menu choice, I’d probably assume buffet as well.
FWIW I left a copy of the buffet menu at the tables for people to to review in advance, and marked each dish really well. I think that helped move the line along quickly that people could plan before they got up there (I hate when you load up on salad because I’m afraid there might not be enough other dishes I’m willing to eat later on) and didn’t have to have a “what do you think this is? conversation at the buffet.
Post # 25
@trckyvicki: no need to tell them.
Post # 26
I don’t think there is any reason to tell them.
Post # 28
I’ve never been told ahead of time if a buffet was being served.
Post # 29
Well I’d be confused but that’s because buffets are unheard of where I live. It’s literally always a plated meal.
Having said that, I don’t see why it matters if the guests know or not?
Post # 30
I agree with PPs, but if you want you could put it on your website. That also might be helpful for someone with severe allergies so they can request a plate ahead of time. Buffets can be bad for cross-contaimination.
Post # 31
In my invite I had a little card with the link so they could RSVP. I mentioned on the card that we would be having a buffet and to please leave a note of any allergy when they RSVP’d so I could let the venue know ahead of time.