(Closed) How to tell guests to be on time

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If you fully intend to be on time, you can get it out by word of mouth, or put it on your wedding website.  I would not put it on the invitation.

Post # 4
1104 posts
Bumble bee

I know some people have dealt with this by putting a different time on the invite (e.g. half an hour or 15 minutes before the actual start time). A lot of people don’t like this idea because the people who do the right thing and show up on time or even early have to sit around for ages! Or I have seen invites that say “4.15 for 4.30 ceremony”. We dealt with it by starting drinks half an hour before the ceremony to try and make sure people were there and get the celebration started, so we said “3.30 for pre-ceremony drinks” – but not sure if that would work for a church situation! It is probably a “know your audience” type thing, if word of mouth will work better then do it that way.

Post # 5
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve seen an invitation that said “Ceremony will start promptly at….”

I certainly wouldn’t put “BE ON TIME!!!!!!!” on the bottom.. even though I’m sure we all want to.. lol I’m a real stickler about not being late so I feel your concern.

I know I have to be the only one but I think I’d be kinda bothered about people coming in and being seated after the ceremony started… I’m totally putting our ushers on door guard duty… it is my wedding afterall lol

Post # 7
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m also using the word “promptly” on the invites. And, on my wedding website, I have the same thing, then an explanation that we only have the ceremony at a set time and that the gates willl be closed after the ceremomy start (this is mandatory, so people will have a hard time getting in if they are late).

I will offer up info for the museum, and suggest people come early and enjoy it. Not sure how you could do that for the church?

Post # 8
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

What if you said something like “Ceremony will begin promptly at 19:30, doors will close at 19:20.”  If they think they won’t be able to get in at all if they arrive late, that might motivate them to be on time…

Post # 9
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can’t force it without being rude. If they are customarily late, that is on them and they have to deal with what comes with that. They are adults and fully responsible for themselves, you are not responsible for their behavior. You do not put anything on the invites to say for them to be on time.

Post # 10
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We have this same issue.  We just put a half hour earlier on the invite.  Our Save the Dates said the real time, so we’ll see how it goes.

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