Post # 1
My church ceremony will start at 19.30. But in Brazil, people are ALWAYS late, and if you say a wedding starts at 19.30, then they won’t arrive until 20.00…
and i really want a full church and everyone to be there for the entrance….
Should I add to the invitation that the ceremony will start at 19.30 (really!)????? or just tell them informally???
Post # 3
If you fully intend to be on time, you can get it out by word of mouth, or put it on your wedding website. I would not put it on the invitation.
Post # 4
I know some people have dealt with this by putting a different time on the invite (e.g. half an hour or 15 minutes before the actual start time). A lot of people don’t like this idea because the people who do the right thing and show up on time or even early have to sit around for ages! Or I have seen invites that say “4.15 for 4.30 ceremony”. We dealt with it by starting drinks half an hour before the ceremony to try and make sure people were there and get the celebration started, so we said “3.30 for pre-ceremony drinks” – but not sure if that would work for a church situation! It is probably a “know your audience” type thing, if word of mouth will work better then do it that way.
Post # 5
I’ve seen an invitation that said “Ceremony will start promptly at….”
I certainly wouldn’t put “BE ON TIME!!!!!!!” on the bottom.. even though I’m sure we all want to.. lol I’m a real stickler about not being late so I feel your concern.
I know I have to be the only one but I think I’d be kinda bothered about people coming in and being seated after the ceremony started… I’m totally putting our ushers on door guard duty… it is my wedding afterall lol
Post # 6
thanks for all your tips….. it’s really difficult to find the right wording 🙂
i’m still torn between writing something (subtle!) on the invite or telling people that it will actually start on time….
but either way i’ll try my best not to worry about it too much, brazilian people are ALWAYS late and i’ll have to live with that 😛
Post # 7
I’m also using the word “promptly” on the invites. And, on my wedding website, I have the same thing, then an explanation that we only have the ceremony at a set time and that the gates willl be closed after the ceremomy start (this is mandatory, so people will have a hard time getting in if they are late).
I will offer up info for the museum, and suggest people come early and enjoy it. Not sure how you could do that for the church?
Post # 8
What if you said something like “Ceremony will begin promptly at 19:30, doors will close at 19:20.” If they think they won’t be able to get in at all if they arrive late, that might motivate them to be on time…
Post # 9
You can’t force it without being rude. If they are customarily late, that is on them and they have to deal with what comes with that. They are adults and fully responsible for themselves, you are not responsible for their behavior. You do not put anything on the invites to say for them to be on time.
Post # 10
We have this same issue. We just put a half hour earlier on the invite. Our Save the Dates said the real time, so we’ll see how it goes.