Post # 1
Hi Hive! I have a dilemma and I’m hoping you might offer some advice! I know that the proposal is coming but I don’t think he actually has a ring yet. He has a vague idea of what sort of ring I like the best but since he wants it to be a complete surprise, we didn’t go together to pick one out. My problem isn’t that I’m going to dislike the ring he picks out or anything like that, I trust his taste entirely. My issue is that he isn’t exactly a bargain shopper – not because he’s not cheap, but because he just isn’t very good at shopping around (men… amiright?). The ring I’ve found is SIGNIFICANTLY less expensive than the ones I know he’ll look at (i.e the ones at the high end jewelry stores) because it’s at a big box discount store that he would never go to in a search for rings.
Is there any way I can steer him towards the cheap end of the shopping spectrum without stripping away what he believes “manly duty” of surprising me with a ring?
I appreciate any help you can give me, ladies!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Can you just send him an email with the link? I think that honesty is the best policy bc I know in my case, I was too shy to say almost anything about the ring bc my FH was completely adamant that it be a surprise and….Well, I’m not in love with it all.
So I think either emailing him a picture of it and saying what a great deal it is or sitting down and talking to him about it are the best ways to go!
But that’s just me, you said you trust his taste, so maybe appeal to the money aspect?
Post # 4
I had the jewellery store write the info on a card and I just gave it to him. He ended up getting the exact one I asked for!
Post # 5
i always spoke up when we saw a friends ring, or i was watching a wedding show and they were showing something i liked or disliked. i didn’t have anything specific in mind, i just knew i like vintage or vintage inspired, so i made sure to point that fact out.
Post # 6
Ask him if you guys can go look at rings together because you want to make sure you steer him in the right direction. Just tell him that you have an idea of what you like but since you haven’t seen them in person you aren’t 100% sure. Since he is going to spend his hard earned money and you have to weat it forever you want to make sure you love it.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! You all have a very good point – I’m going to have to man up and talk to him, haha. And of course, I’m ONLY thinking of him and his bank account, right? ; )
@Trailmix, I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s too shy to talk about that kind of thing! I didn’t want to seem like I was demanding one certain ring, but I would feel terrible if he spent a lot of money on something that I knew he could get for much less.
@Ottawabride2011 – That’s a really good idea. I hadn’t thought of that! Thank you! (Also, I went to UofO for my undergrad, yay GeeGees!)
Post # 8
Another option might be to go through a mutual friend or one of his family members. Let them know and they can make sure it gets back to him 🙂
Post # 9
I emailed the link, got the exact one I wanted, it was still a surprise (I didn’t know he had it, although the suspicions were strong enough for me to get my nails done!). I know he is happier that he got me a much nicer ring than if he had just gone and bought one at the jeweler.
It also makes me chuckle inside whenever someone comments how how amazing my ring is (I work in retail so I see a lot of people every day). If only they knew the deal he got………