(Closed) How to tell him not to propose on my birthday?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would definitely say something. My husband apparently forgot how much I hate holiday/birthday proposals (seriously I’d mentioned it a lot) and he proposed Christmas morning. It took me a bit to get over it, TBH.

Post # 18
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i was exactlylike you, so so positive i did NOT want a birthday proposal. my reasoning was that that day was already special, i wanted another day to be made special. guess what? when my birthday proposal happened i wasnt thinking about that at all! honestly i was so psyched to know i would be spending thiat new year of my life planning a marriage to him it made 28 wayyyyy more special than it would have been.

FWIW, i agree that a ring does not substitue for a birthday gift. Fiance gave me an amazing birthday gift separate of our engagement and it made me happy that he did that, a) because i like gifts and b) it showed his thoughtfulness… i wouldnt put any conditions on his proposal because as PPs said, that is a seriously stressful situation for a guy. instead i would find ways to subtly hint that you want a proper birthday gift… if you happen to get a ring too, then consider it a birthday bonus 🙂

Post # 20
22 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, you are being crazy and should keep your mouth shut!  Let him propose when and how he wants to. 

Post # 21
2066 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d let him have this one. I’m dying for a birthday proposal! I wouldn’t say anything cuz it may come across as ungrateful/bratty. I personally just don’t get the concept of needing separate days. It’llmake your bday amazing, no?

Post # 22
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I simply told my Fiance when we were talking about timelines that I did not want a birthday proposal or a holiday proposal.
My bday was labor day. He proposed 8/31. Kind of close but it was still fine. 🙂

Post # 23
875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I didn’t want it on my bday either…bday 11/5 and proposal 11/19 🙂

Post # 24
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance propsed on my birthday.  I totally felt the way you did, I kind of knew it was coming and really did not want it done on my birthday.  But when the big moment came I was so so happy I really could have cared less that it was on my birthday and you know what it made the day THAT much more special.


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