(Closed) How to tell my dad I don't want him to walk me down the aisle?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Maybe instead of framing it as “I don’t want you to walk me,” you can frame it more along the lines of, “this is something WE want because it represents us coming together as a family.”

My then-FI-now-DH and I also processed in together, and I was a tiny bit worried that my dad’s feelings would be hurt. In our case it had nothing at all to do with not wanting to walk with him (my dad and I are close), but I don’t like the woman-as-property overtones of giving the bride away, and having the couple walk in together is actually a much older tradition in the Church. My dad was fine with it, and I think it helped that we presented it not as a rejection of him but as an embracing of something we both wanted.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I walked my mom down when I was 5. I don’t know exactly how to tell him,but maybe you could just explain you and your daughter are walking together? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AquabatsCadet:  Did your father never speak to your sister before the wedding? Did he just show up?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

That sucks because it does seem like this is important to him and he will be hurt if you don’t. What about having him walk you part way and then your Fiance and daughter joining you to walk the rest of the way?

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  I’m wondering this, too. He just went out on his own and rented a random tux and showed up, expecting to walk her down the aisle?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AquabatsCadet:  What I ment to ask was that if you sister ever actually discussed her progression with your dad before her wedding (again, you may not know this given your age at the time). Yes, It is important that you let your wishes be known to your dad BEFORE the big day. I think i am getting a bit of your family dynamic. If It were me I would speak frankly to everyone in my bridal party about my FI’s and my wishes.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ok, so that makes it so much easier. “I am not having a Bridal Party. Everyone invited will be a guest….”

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