(Closed) How to tell my family I am engaged when they think I am too young to get married

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Without knowing why he would have to go away with zero contact for a year it’s really hard to say much about this. That whole having no contact and not being able to visit each other makes this sound really sketchy honestly.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If you’re too scared to tell your family then you’re not ready to be married. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Sorry, I agree with your parents.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

How can he have a stable job to support both of you on a visitor visa? 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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emmamw17:  When I was younger I was often scared to tell my parents about decisions I made too. Mostly because somewhere deep down I knew that they might be right. Just something to consider. I agree with your family. It doesn’t sound like they’re brushing off your relationship entirely, but it does sound like they have legitimate concerns. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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emmamw17:  This sounds increddbily weird… I went to uni with a Turkish student  few years ago. He actually had to leave uni early (and come back later after service) to complete his service requirment. Yes boot camp they don’t have contact with tons of people, but he still was sending mail to some friends after that, and adding fb posts occassionally after their couple month training was done. Are you sure he would actually be cut off for that long? 

 

I agree with the other bee though, if you can’t tell your family then your prob. not ready to be married. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Agre that if you can’t figure out how to tell your family, you aren’t ready to be married. Also I think you are a touch overconfident about this post-graduation job situatio.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Just tell them? Why is this an issue? You know their opinion, you are choosing to ignore it, so just say, “Hey, we are engaged.”

Are you planning on marrying before he leaves? If not, what is the rush?

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 5 months ago by beebee1983.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee

You may not have their support and approval now, so all you can do is prove them wrong in the future. I would definitely have misgivings about my daughter if she was in your situation, but in the end it’s your life and you have the right to make your own choices on how to live it. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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emmamw17:  if you genuinely think you’re ready just tell them. If they don’t like it, that’s.something you deal with then.

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