Post # 1
So my wedding isn’t until a little over a year away still, but one thing I am really worrying about is my guests putting up an album with wedding pics they have taken on the day onto Facebook. I am a really private and shy person, and I am super worried if someone catches me on the day looking….well, not my best, let’s just say. How do I ask my guests in the nicest possible way to refrain from putting our day on FB?? I know it’s probably a big thing to ask of them, but I don’t want the whole world seeing and judging my day, you know? Just my close friends and family.
Post # 3
Are you having programs? You could put a little “Please refrain from putting photos on social media sites” note in bold letters there. If not, you can have your officiant make an annoucement before everything starts. Or both.
Post # 4
Wow, I didn’t even think about this, but you have an excellent point. I deleted my FB account a few years ago and haven’t really looked back (lol). I kinda don’t want pics popping up there either, but I’m losing a little hope with some of my guests on that (let’s just say they put…well…everything on there).
Great suggestions, mepayne!
Post # 5
Haha yes I know what you mean, I know for sure there will a few guests at my wedding who would put up an album of 100+ pics of the day. I have Facebook myself, but really, I would rather put up a pic myself with the caption “we did it!” or something cute along those lines and leave it at that. I love your suggestion too mepayne, maybe I will write that on the programs!
Post # 6
@mrslmbtobe: I’m in the same boat. I know at least two or three people who are going to post photo albums of the pictures from my wedding. Sadly, these people have no artistic filter, and will post some very unflattering photos and tag me in them. *sigh*
I’m putting up a reminder on my wedding website that asks everyone from refraining from using their phones during the ceremony. I’m also considering changing my security settings on Facebook so that I can’t be tagged or have pictures posted on my wall. I want to be the one that shows the photos from my big day.
Post # 7
I think you can have a setting that lets you approve anyone tagging you. That doesn’t stop them from posting the pictures, but at least they wouldn’t show up in your feed.
I second the suggestion of adding it to the program or having an announcement made.
Post # 8
An option that I’m considering using is setting up a photo sharing account to have friends and family upload pictures to instead of Facebook. There are plenty of free ones online. Maybe that would be an option for those who can’t wait to share.
Post # 9
I will be changing my security settings on fb. We also had cards made on vistaprint (250 cards for free, just pay shipping) that say “We can’t wait to see your pictures of our special day however we’d like to be the first to post them publically. Instead of sharing wedding photos on social media, email them to us at ______ or upload them to our shutterfly account. The username is __________ and the password is _______. “
We are going to be putting them on the tables at our reception, one at each seat, along with our favors, and we have it written at the bottom of our programs as well. I’m sure it won’t stop everyone but hopefully it filters most of them
Post # 10
I didn’t tell my guests not to upload to facebook but I did have these with a URL for a private photo sharing site where guests could upload pictures and videos if they didn’t want them on facebook or they don’t have facebook accounts (like my Great Aunts). But it could work for you if you ask people not to upload to facebook… but here’s where to upload to. And maybe have a larger sign so people can’t miss it.
I got them from this company: http://www.picshareboxes.com/ but ordered through Amazon.
Post # 11
Good luck trying to get people not to post photos from the wedding on facebook. They’ll do it anyway.
Post # 12
Why wouldn’t you look your best? You mean…drunkie poo? 😀 😀
Well…I seriously doubt you’re going to be able to prevent people from posting it on Facebook but changing your privacy settings can definitely help with that, at least it will restrict people from posting pics on your wall or tagging you in photos.
Post # 13
@RedAngelDreamer: That’s kind of a sad outlook on people’s ability to control themselves (especially people she calls friends and family).
I was struggling with this also. I made sign that basically, politely says, “We know you want to share our day with everyone, but so do we! So please hang on to those photos until after the wedding so that we have the very special opportunity to present the world with our first picture as husband and wife!” It also includes something along the lines of, “We want you to be in the moment with us!” so that it’s more about them being there with us, instead of out in facebook land.
Post # 14
I included a note about this in my program – no one was offended and no wedding pictures have ended up on Facebook even though 90% of my guest have an account. Some people made Snapfish or similar albums and sent us the link, so we’ve still seen some guest pictures.
Post # 15
My 3rd cousin got married and all of their friends were posting these blurry dark photos of them all over Facebook. I would have been ticked! They were not good photos!
I’d put it in the program in bold letters.
Post # 16
We sent an email with information on a variety of things just before the wedding including one politely asking everyone not to post photos of us on Facebook though they were more than welcome to post photos of themselves at our wedding and gave the address for a Shutterfly site to share photos.