(Closed) How to tell my mom she's not invited?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I invite my mom?

    Yes- She's Your Mom and Should Come!

    No!

    Yes- If It's the Only Way You Can Guarantee Your Siblings Will Be There

  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee

     

    Why wouldn’t your dad just bring your siblings with him to attend?

    As to inviting your mom, I thought you already cut ties with her? If that’s so, then there is no new decision to be made, correct?

     

     

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    You can’t invite your mom without her husband because if you tell her not to bring him she prob will anyways. Just don’t invite her. I wouldn’t. I’m not inviting my dad. Just because she gave birth to you doesn’t give her an automatic invite. To me family are people who love and support you and those are the kind of people you should invite to your wedding. 

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee

     

    How could she stop him? If they’re visiting Dad on the weekend y’all get hitched, they all attend together. Your mom couldn’t stop him from taking them to McDonald’s or roller skating, either.

    Maybe I’m missing something?

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    Yes I think you might ba afraid of something that might not happen. And anyway, judging from your post, I would say that on balance having to invite your Mum and try to somehow get her to not bring her husband would be far, far harder than just trying your best to get your siblings to come with your Dad. It sounds like you would be opening up a whole can of worms if you invited her and that her presence would sour your day. And usually I am all for inviting all sorts of Mums and Dads. 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee

    I would get your dad to bring the kids. I would talk to whoever I had to to make it happen, but would not invite her.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee

     

    I agree there is no hiding your pending nuptials. Nor should there be a reason to do so. Your invited guests will attend. You just do whatever is necessary to make sure your wedding weekend occurs when your sibs visit Dad. Case solved.

    It seems to me that this should never need to be a discussion of how to invite Mom politely and disallow her new husband. You said that you already cut ties with her, so, that ship sailed.

     

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    I said yes, if that is the ONLY way to get the siblings. Otherwise, no. I’d also hope your siblings would throw a fit if your mom tried to keep them from going. 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Can’t you schedule your wedding for a day when your dad has them?  Have you talked this over with your dad?

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    How awful for you.  I agree with the PPs–talk to your dad.  Let him help you.

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