(Closed) How to tell my mom what I want for my shower! (destination wedding situation)

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just tell her only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower and its bad etiqutte to do otherwise.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

How about a compromise you hold small shower with family and friends, then later in the evening you can have a bbq or informal gathering with her friends celebrating your engagement. That why they can be invovled and don’t have to feel weird about the whole gift thing if they aren’t invited to the wedding?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’m in the same exact situation!  and the shower my mom is throwing is exactly the shower i didn’t want, in an area i asked her not to have it.  i’m thankful for her putting the effort in…but it’s sort of turning into her shower, not mine.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It is really not ok to invite someone to the shower if they are not invited to the wedding – destination or not.  Tell your mom it will appear rude to invite her friends – it will look gift grabby as well, and maybe that will set her straight.

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