Post # 1
My mom wants to have bridal shower for me and I said yes because its really the only thing she will be involved with for the wedding planning. The only thing is she wants to invite all of her friends who she has gone to there kids bridal showers and stuff. Some of these people wont even be invited to the wedding and I dont want a bunch of people I’m not even close with there. I also told her we can invite people to the shower who arent invited to our wedding. How should I approach this situation? I really dont want to hurt my mom’s feelings especially since i’m ruining her dream of having a wedding in our home town by having a destination wedding. She just doesnt seem to realize that I just want things to be small and if it were up to me then me an my fiance would just elope.
Post # 3
I meant we “cant” invite people to a shower when they are not invited to our wedding. Damn crappy work computer keyboard!
Post # 4
Just tell her only people who are invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower and its bad etiqutte to do otherwise.
Post # 5
How about a compromise you hold small shower with family and friends, then later in the evening you can have a bbq or informal gathering with her friends celebrating your engagement. That why they can be invovled and don’t have to feel weird about the whole gift thing if they aren’t invited to the wedding?
Post # 6
i’m in the same exact situation! and the shower my mom is throwing is exactly the shower i didn’t want, in an area i asked her not to have it. i’m thankful for her putting the effort in…but it’s sort of turning into her shower, not mine.
Post # 7
It is really not ok to invite someone to the shower if they are not invited to the wedding – destination or not. Tell your mom it will appear rude to invite her friends – it will look gift grabby as well, and maybe that will set her straight.