(Closed) How to tell my photographer what I want?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 16
190 posts
Blushing bee

zamorski:  +1 to everything you said.  you can’t get a dark moody photographer to all of a sudden shoot like jose villa. will not happen.

Post # 21
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

…just remember – they will tell stories before wedding bc they don’t want to lose a client.

Ask for more full wedding series to see, or maybe it is even worth pay a couple of hundreds for engagement photosession to make a ‘test-drive’ and check if your photographer really can make those full of light romantic pictures, or he is just trying to calm you down.

Post # 23
22 posts
  • Wedding: October 2006

It’s much harder to shoot/edit in another style than people think. It’s like walking around all day trying to pull off a convincing foreign accent. If you were my client and came to me looking for something other than all the work in my portfolio I would not be offended but I’d think “why did you hire  me”? The way I think of it, it’s like how you’d feel if your fiancé came home with photos of an ex and told you that he likes you, but could you just maybe look more like this girl.  She’s prettier. Maybe just fix your hair like her and dress the same? I’d seriously consider finding a new photographer unless these ones are prepared to do anything to save the booking. Honestly some photographers really don’t care and need the money. Personally I’d feel like it was setting us both up for disappointment and frustration and I’d give you the option to find someone new. Though I’d totally be keeping your retainer haha

Post # 24
76 posts
Worker bee

red860126:  Ugh – I’m sorry to hear this! As a wedding photographer myself, it would be horrible to find out that my bride and groom weren’t really into my style but they felt obligated to use me. Honestly, I would rather be told that they chose not to use me and to go with someone else that was more their style.

I love when couples send me Pinterest inspiration, but I will admit that if someone asked for a completly different style than what I shoot, I would most likely say I’m not able to do that. Editing in a style is an art, and to completly change that just wouldn’t be a good thing.

Talk to you in laws and maybe let them know your thoughts….


Post # 25
7062 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

red860126:  Ok I’m going to be the debbie downer here and go against the grain. Yes, it is rude…..because every photographer has a style and you can’t just ask them to shoot in another one. It’s not just the shooting but the editing and if they don’t “see” in that particular way you aren’t going to have the results. I think you’d be setting yourself up for a huge dissapointment for a few reasons. First of all, changing style just isn’t that easy. Secondly, the photographer is probably going to be pretty offended that you’ve asked him/her that and could potentially hurt how they approach your wedding.

I can tell you – I don’t want to work with a client that doesn’t want to work with me. I would rather you told me, and we parted ways for you to find the photographer you love. For starters, if a client asked me to change my style I’d (nicely) tell them no. And then, I’d spent their wedding day stressed out and anxious about shooting the wedding of someone who doesn’t even like my work. It’s NOT a good situation. 

Think of it this way – you wouldn’t go into a restaurant with a French trained chef and ask him to cook you Mexican food. 🙂

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