(Closed) How to tell others you eloped?

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You mentioned Facebook, did you change your status to married there?

I plan on mailing a picture and keepsake afterwards to friends and family.

Post # 4
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would ask him to meet for lunch or something and tell him person. As for your friends, send out a marriage announcement!

Post # 6
3376 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsLobizon: My hubby eloped, so I’ve been dealing with all of the family drama. Unfortunately, it’s caused some drama but it has also shown us who REALLY cares about us.

I would say that you send your Dad an elopement announcement since it sounds like there’s not a great chance of getting your news across any other way. We sent out this announcement the morning that we were leaving to go to the coast and elope, so most people received it the next day.


Besides that, we’re mailing thank you cards with a wedding photo on them and if anyone wants pictures, they can contact me and I’ll send them a link to the photo album. 


Honestly, it sounds like you’ve been trying your hardest to tell your father. Go ahead, change your Facebook information. If he gets hurt by it, just let him know that you tried to tell him multiple times, but he didn’t allow for it to happen. You shouldn’t feel guilty that you had the wedding that you wanted! We had people try and guilt trip us, too, but you can’t let it bother you. The people who truly care about you two will only care that two people who they love are now joined in marriage. 

If you need to chat more or vent, just shoot me a PM 🙂 

Post # 7
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MsLobizon:  So you would like to tell your dad that you eloped?  Is this correct?  And invite him to your dinner you ave planned?


It sounds like he just doesn’t get what you’re doing, so you might have to come right out and tell him in person or over the phone.


Another clueless parent story here…   my mom KNEW we were elopeing prior.  I then posted some pro pics on Facebook one week later.  I emailed the link to all the family.  I knew my mom would be at my sister’s house where there was good internet.  I told my sister, PLEASE show mom my photos will you?  She said she would.

I get on the phone with my mom that same night, we talk for a whole hour.  Not one word about seeing my wedding photos.  I had to bring it up before she would hang up.  She just totally forgot.  I don’t get her deal; is she really that ditzy?   Nevertheless, it really hurt my feelings!

Post # 8
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My husband called my mother the day after we married. She congratulated us, but she was PISSED, along with my dad.

I also sent announcements out.

Post # 9
4961 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We texted a picture to family and friends (the cell phone version of this since pro pix weren’t in yet) and put it on our social media pages.


what did you end up doing?



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