(Closed) How to tell partially-estranged family members I'm engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Are you planning to invite them to the wedding?

I don’t think you particular have to go out of your way to let them know… especially if they haven’t been very supportive.  But, since you normally communicate via email… I’d send an email saying:  just wanted to share some happy news!  I’m engaged!  and then tell a short story of the proposal or detail some of the plans (we hope for a Fall wedding, etc…)

If you aren’t planning to invite them, I wouldn’t say anything.  You can fill them in the next time either of you contact the other.

Post # 4
Member
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@joya_aspera:  I really don’t see what the point of contacting them is unless you want to continue contact. I guess if you’re really fussed about it, you could send them a ‘hey how’s it going’ email and update them that you’re engaged… but then they might expect a wedding invite.

I think you’re overthinking this a bit. If you’re not close, why would they be upset if they found out you’re engaged via a wedding announcement in the paper, mutual friends, etc.?

Post # 7
Member
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@joya_aspera:  if they’ve abused you and shown no signs of remorse, I don’t see why you’d want to continue to put yourself out there for more hurt.  It’s one thing if they’ve made ammends for their actions, but – from what I’m pieces together – you are just opening yourself for more hurt.  My advise is to not share with them the news until you are on better terms.  Can relationships be reconciled and past hurts forgiven?  Yes, absoutely.  But offering up info like this to people you aren’t on good terms with doesn’t make sense to me.

The topic ‘How to tell partially-estranged family members I'm engaged?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors