(Closed) How to tell Partner I may have an STD?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 30
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Anonhere:  The lack of knowledge about STI’s on this site is scary.

Chlamydia is a bacterial infection. Once successfully treated (like in your case since you were retested and it came back clean) it means you no longer have the disease. It can only come back if you are reinfected.

So what does this mean to you? It means that if your test does come back positive then in all likelihood you got reinfected from your current partner. Also it is recommended not to have any form of sex until the symptoms have cleared.

What I don’t understand is that since you have already gone through this once why would you sleep with someone, especially unprotected, without both of you having STI tests and sighting the results.

The one thing my mother drilled into me as a teen/young adult was never ever sleep with someone without sighting a current STI check results. Maybe be unromantic but hey so are STI’s and some of them are for life.

Post # 31
7418 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Honestly if you can’t even get through a conversation about your health as a couple, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you can’t summon the courage then cut him loose and stay single till you can find a partner you can actually communicate with; if you have the conversation and he can’t handle it, then cut him loose and be glad you dodged a bullet.

Post # 32
1283 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@j_jaye:  +1 

I think you need to have the conversation, and the conversation will depend on what the results of the test are. Are you experiencing the same symptoms as before? Is there any concern that it is a different STI? When you were tested before entering into the unprotected sex portion of this relationship, did you do a full range of STI tests, or just test for the clearance of the infection? We each have a responsibility to manage our own health- this is something we have control over, and something we can request of our partners (or  decide to end the relationship if they deny this request). This will be a good oppotunity for honest, open and adult communication. 

Post # 35
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Put the shoe on the other foot.  Would you want a phone call from the board of health?  Would you want a guy to break up with you and then receive a phone call from the board of health?

Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to this.  And stop having unprotected sex until BOTH of you get a clean bill of health.

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