(Closed) How to tell people they aren't actually getting an invite?

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just tell them that:/ It’s so far out so plans are likely to have changed between when you first told them and the actually wedding anyway. It’s not like you sent them invites and are now taking it back.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Just say you are only having a very small destination wedding with immediate family and very close friends. The sooner you do this the better because they can stop thinking they are invited!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just say “immediate family and the bridal party”. Leave out the part about close friends, as:

a) you didn’t say anything about inviting friends, and

b) people don’t like to hear that they are not one of your “close friends”.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JMPacker:  If you’re the type who changes her mind often, then don’t tell them yet. I’d tell them once I know for sure, otherwise you’re likely to have some upset people on your hands.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

@BabyCarat:  +1. I agree with this! Wait until you have put some money down on something! If they are true friends they won’t mind. They might be a little upset, but they will understand it is what you want! Also if they want to celebrate with you, you can all go out to dinner together, or you can host a huge backyard potluck bbq or something! 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wait you’re still having a Destination Wedding .. in thailand … but your cutting the guest list.  I’m kind of shocked … that’s a HUGE trip to plan, save for and that’s a long time to travel.  So now you want to tell people .. .nope your no longer invited… good luck

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would have thought, that if someone could afford the flight and hotel, etc, they would be able to come.  

Oh they don’t know the dates…. you know most of them will drop out .. that’s a ton of bank for a trip.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I think you need to let them all know ASAP. All the destination wedding I’ve attended I’ve been told more than 12 months in advance so you can organise time off and save up.

Before I receive my invite I’d be making plans so I’d want to know if I’m no longer invited.

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