(Closed) How to tell people you won't be having a bridal party.

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@badabing88:  i don’t see why you have to explain anything, just say you decided not to have one.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ajillity81:  +1

 

Just let them know that you and your Fiance are delighted to just have their presence at your wedding and didn’t want to impose such a commitment on them.  If they complain, just remind them that it’s your wedding, and this is the vision you would like to follow.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agreed. DH’s sister and BFF (a female) both expected to be asked but we didn’t want a Bridal Party. We simply stated that we are choosing not to have one and we don’t want one. Period.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

“We decided against having a bridal party because we would like our friends and family to enjoy the day and help us celebrate without feeling like they have ‘responsibilities'”

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why do you owe anyone an explanation?

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@badabing88:  “We’re having a Destination Wedding and know that flying down will be enough expense/hassel already. Plus, I have SOOOO many women that I love and admire… to pick and choose who to have stand up with me would just break my heart and I can’t possibly have 14 bridesmaids! We are so lucky to have so much support, it will just be great to have everyone there as guests to enjoy the day with us in whatever they feel like wearing, sitting whereever is comfortable!”

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We just told people that we want to have an intimate ceremony with just the two of us.  (And the officiant, obviously.  And the 150 people watching, lol.)

ETA:  @gelaine22: Because some people who would be obvious picks might get their feelings a little hurt, and it’s always best to avoid hurt feelings if it’s easy to do.

 

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2013

When people asked about a Bridal Party, we just said we wanted everyone included, and that way no one is stressed out with extra expenses or uncomfortable in dresses/suits they would only wear for one day!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@gelaine22:  Well, because when someone asks “why?” you can’t just stare at them and walk away. 🙂 I know right after congratulating me on my engagement, the next thing out of my sister’s mouth would be “what kind of dress are we (your bridesmaids) going to have to wear?”

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MexiPino:  yes but that doesnt mean you need to tell them much more than we arent having a bridal party and something short and sweet. You don’t owe them any long explanations. We are adults. It may just be me but I’m blunt and I dont explain things unless I have to. I think @dlwnc:  said it well. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

“I dont want a bridal party.”

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m not having a bridal party either. I have made it known for awhile though that I didn’t want one, so no one was really surprised. Actually, my dad was the only one who questioned my decision.  Haha! I think most people are happy not to have to wear matching dresses!

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