(Closed) How to tell someone they are not invited to my wedding.. with a TWIST!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MsBark:  can you blame the venue?  tell them that you have a lot of family coming and can only invite a few friends because your reception hall won’t accommodate more than 400ppl (or something of that nature)

Post # 4
2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would tell them that you are alread over capacity.

Post # 6
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Has anyone actually asked you if they are invited?  If not, I’d just not mention it.  If they do actually ask, just tell them your sorry but because your family is so big you only hardly have any friends attending.  It’s rude of them to ask.

Post # 7
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY

Could you tell them you’re just having a family wedding? Sure, it might be a lot of folks, but you have a big family to accomadate.

Post # 8
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Even if you are having a large wedding, you have to draw the line somewhere.  I am in a little bit of the same boat, large wedding, and everyone knows it.  If someone directly asks, I would appolgize and go “Sorry, but we only have so much in our budget and so much space in our venue.”  After that, if they insist, they are just rude. 

Post # 9
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be like “Haha, that’s what they DON’T tell you about big-ass Greek wedings–It’s all family! I have ___ aunts and ____ uncles and like ____ cousins… And don’t even get me STARTED on how many people are in FI’s family! We hit 350 guests with JUST family! We can’t even invite our own friends!”

Post # 12
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MsBark:  I’m really only going to be repeating what (great) answers PPs have posted, but yeah: just tell them as little as possible for starters. If they directly ask you where their invite is/when the wedding is/why am I not invited, etc., just answer that although there are a lot of people coming, they are all family and that due to venue size, there can be no additional guests. 

 @BrandNewBride: has my favorite response, and she’s dead on!


happy planning 🙂

Post # 13
1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MsBark:  I would say that you’re keeping it at family and very close friends.

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