(Closed) How to tell someone they aren\'t invited…

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
540 posts
Busy bee

A friend has said this to me recently, I said:

“We havent finalised a guest list yet but it will be a small wedding so we wont be inviting too many people unfortunately.”

If you are having a big wedding.. maybe

“We havent talked about a guest list yet but my partner has a lot of family so I will not be able to have everyone I wanted so Im not sure who is invited yet….”

Post # 3
30392 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We aren’t able to invite everyone with whom we would like to celebrate. I know you will understand.

Post # 4
1049 posts
Bumble bee

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ctbxbee :  were just having family there. It’s not a huge thing at all.

Post # 5
30 posts
  • Wedding: May 2017

Just don’t send them an invite, they will get the picture

Post # 6
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would just refrain from sending an invite. If they are super pushy after invites have gone out I would just be like “Unfortunately our guest list was limited due to venue restrictions so we were not able to invite everyone we wanted to celebrate with us.” And leave it at that. 

Post # 7
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Don’t say anything. They will know when they don’t get an invite. Honestly, people don’t really care if they’re not invited. If they are upset or ask you about it, just say that you really would have loved to have them as a guest but your budget didn’t allow for a large wedding and a lot of people who you would wanted to be there couldn’t be.

Post # 8
7946 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we aren’t able to invite everyone, i hope you understand.

Post # 9
2260 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Yeah, we had a couple of DH’s Dad’s cousins assume they were invited and told us to our face at a funeral they were coming to our wedding. It was about 5 months before our big day, so we had sent save the dates already, but not invitations.

It was uncomfortable but we just said, “We’re sorry, but we are having a small wedding” They got really embarrassed then that they had assumed. (Also, we did have a small wedding- 50 guests)

If they hadn’t said something like that to us, we would have just never sent them an invite, and I’m sure they would have gotten the picture eventually.

Post # 10
23 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would say that, unfortunately, we have such a tight budget that we’re just sticking to very close family.

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